Is It Possible To Have A Relationship With A Woman?

Question

I've been in love with someone for 7 years and while never in a relationship with her, I would love to be in one, one day. I love her with all my heart and would die for her. However, I am also a person who has a deep attraction to guys and find myself more attracted to males than females in general and a lot of times when masturbating, it takes SO much to get off to women, (sometimes even her) whereas almost instantly when thinking of a man. Although, I can get off to a woman. Anyways, I am crazy about this girl, nonetheless, and she is the most beautiful person I've ever seen and would love to marry and be the Father of her children, one day. In your opinion, and if so, explain why, do you think it would work and that a lasting relationship, if it happens, could last? Thanks!

She knows about my attraction to men, btw, and she did once say that she wished I were fully straight. So it's not something that I'm hiding.

BTW, she wished I were fully straight so she could be with me (her words), not because of any homophobia. She's anything but.

Answer 1

Marriage, to a certain extent, depends upon sexual satisfaction. You say that u r more attracted to males in general!! That's a basic problem. Assuming that ur girl is straight, I think, it will be almost a crime, if u hide this fact from her. So, get some professional counseling regarding ur attitude, find out if she is interested in marrying u and propose.. To make it a lasting relationship, u have to work hard at it - there are no easy solutions. It takes a lot of commitment, honesty, understanding and a lot of love to make a marriage successful!!!

Hope u don't find this as preaching, but its my opinion...

All the best....

Answer 2

Well if it was me, I would marry her. She knows about your preference for men, and that will only get stronger as you get older. If she can deal with that, or agree that you can simply go once in a while and get that out of your system without her being threatened.

I guess it really depends on if she wants to take the chance that at some time you aren't going to find the man of your dreams and leave her. But isn't that a risk we all take gay or straight?

You've been in love for a long time, you both want the same things including children. If you can be adult and make some sort of agreement that doesn't interfere with your relationship, I would suggest you get married and start that family.

Life is not black and white, nothing is simple, humans are complex animals. Some times you have to take risks to get what you want. However, if she is hesitant, you need to end your relationship with her and let her move on. Don't use that as a threat, but just be honest with yourself and do whats best for her.

Answer 3

Tough one, if you did marry her, could you be faithful and happy? Being bi myself, I know that I can be totally happy in a committed relationship with people of either sex, but can you? Could she get past the fact that you are attracted to other women if you were straight, even if you never acted on it? It wouldn't be any different with guys, yes you're attracted, no, you won't act on it. I've seen marriages between bis where the rule was no woman but her, all the guys he wants, and vice versa, and, for them, it worked. Open, honest evaluation of both your needs, and a truly ruthless self examination to see if you can both meet them are the only way you can meaningfully answer this question. That is actually a requirement before a Druidic marriage, since among us breaking your word to a God is considered a bad thing.

Answer 4

Eh??? a bit confusing w/ ur q's..... So, wat abt her choice?? she prefer u to be straight so tat she wldnt freak out if u r to revive ur feeling towards her, is it?? wat abt her choice? does she hope to set up a family only w/ a guy? as long as True Love do exist between e 2 of u n having the same dreams tat want to accomplish together, then by all means, follow wat ur Heart wants, not wat ur sexual preference( to have a man to let u get off).