It's more than four years since I graduated from high school, but I still feel like a school kid at times like this. There is a party happening tonight for a friend of mine who's tying the knot soon. Most of my school friends will be there, but I've totally branched out from them so much that I don't like their company anymore. These friends of mine didn't really complete school as they left after the tenth or eleventh grade. They did other studies, got married and have their own families now. They are all comfortably off. And, in the meantime, I carved my own niche of friends and work that I'm comfortable with, and I feel uncomfortable meeting my old friends after such a long time. It's like we have NOTHING in common now. To make matters work, I'm single. A few friends have commented on it in the past, and it really hurt me although I didn't show it. Contrary to what they think, I really am sought after, but I'm picky about my choice of mate. They just see me as a failure. Help!
2006-11-07 21:41:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I absolutely have to attend this party, since they ARE a part of my childhood and it is only right that I be there. But, that's not to say that I like them anymore. It's like being in school again with friends I tried to fit in with, but never actually enjoyed their company to the fullest. Sure, it was nice being "popular" back then, but I don't care about it anymore. But, some of my friends do care about it STILL. They still want to stick together thinking that they are "it". Our group has always been the bullying kind. We selected the smartest, richest and the prettiest girls. I was none, but I was liked by a few people, so I managed to fit in with that crowd. Now, I'm a lot prettier (some were amazed at my transformation!), and more confident............. but, at times like these, I feel like cringing.
It's been a year since I saw them last.
How do I tackle the situation?
2006-11-07 21:49:27 · update #1
Do you believe in yourself or not? Seems you're quite comfortable with who you are, so why should you care what others, especially people you say you have nothing in common with, think of you?
If you don't go, you're just sorta proving to them that their opinion about you is right. It isn't like you've to continue seein them or anythin, it's just one night. So go, brace yourself for some bitchy comments, but keep your smile in place....have fun, and return to your life after that.
2006-11-07 21:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure that's how they really see you? maybe they are envious of the fact that you have what you rally want, why they may not. but either way, if you don't want to go to this party then don't. why go to this party where you will put on a fake smile, make small talk and act like your having a good time. trust me if you go you will be kicking your self for it later.
2006-11-08 05:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no reason for you to go to this party. People move on after finishing school, and there is nothing wrong with that. I say don't go. Everything you say points me in that direction.
2006-11-08 07:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the party looking incredibly sexy with an upbeat attitude, and if anyone looks down on you then put them in their place. you shouldnt take crap from anyone. but by the way, if it bothers you when someone says something about you being alone then obviously it bothers you that youre alone.
2006-11-08 07:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by beb27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to see your former classmates, then don't.
As far as your being single, who cares what they think? As long as you're happy with being single, don't let what they say, bother you.
2006-11-08 05:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.........send them a gold embossed card wishing everybody well for their future's, and an apology for not being able to make it, as your'e sister or someone had just had a cancer operation, and your'e still assisting in their recovery.......
2006-11-08 05:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by peanut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends are people whom you like to spend more times with them.if you do not have that so they are not friends of yours
think
who is really your friends are
2006-11-08 06:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel uncomfortable then simply don't go
2006-11-08 05:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by rovina g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋