My husband and I have been married for about 9 months. He has already cheated on me at the 5 month mark. He said he would never do it again. I believe him but I am still a little suspicious. I have a problem with him having so many female friends. He friend male and female only call him on his cell phone when he is at work. The do not call the house often. I told him that makes me feel uncomfortable but I don't think he understands. I just want to be treated like we were when we were dating. He treated me like i was the only woman on this earth. I don't want him talking to any women on the cell phone. I want to trust him on the email and when I am not around. I just want him to think about my feelings before he does anything that he knows might bothers me. Is this to much to ask for. Please give me advice because I don't know how much more I can take.
2006-11-07 21:11:38 · 12 answers · asked by T.C. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, why think about it and spent sleepless nights tossing in bed. He is old enough to know what is right and wrong. Show him you trust him and don't show that it is affecting you a lot. Do good to him, and do your duty as a good wife. Do not nag him. I have a gut feel that he really loves you and enclosing him in a tight space will worsen the situation. Give him some space. Leave it to him. and be a wonderful wife. I am sure, he realises your worth and even is he looks at women now and then, I'm sure he will always treasure his wonderful, loving wife waiting at home for him.
2006-11-08 00:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to have to tell you this but you married a cheater and he isn't going to listen to you and take you seriously because he isn't convinced that what he's doing is wrong. What you need to do is suggest couples counseling with him. If he doesn't want to go and try to work on the marriage then it's best that you leave him because there' no way you will be able to rest in peace, wondering if he's cheating again.
2006-11-08 05:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Leila G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear i've been with my bf fpr one year and we live like a married couple.. and telling honestly we've been threw those things you are talking about.. and i know that makes you feel bad.. but dont you think that maybe he told his friends dont call me when i'm at home coz my wife doest like that.. and maybe he said i wannna my time with her whn i'm home... ppl have frnds and it dosent matter if its a gurl or a guy. dear he told you once that he wont ever do it again and yes you are his only one in this world. cant you see that you have a value or else trust me he wont ever get married to you.. dear dont make those things comes as a wall between you guyz.. if there is something it will come front of you one day. but for now enjoy every moment as much as you can coz he might not be with you the next day....
ASH
2006-11-08 05:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ayesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk with him. if he has already admittedly cheated on you then he shouldn't be surprised that you have a trust issue. ask him to limit contact with fumale friends. ask that you be introduced to them and that if they want to talk they call the house when you are around too. after all if ther is nothing to hide then this shouldn't be a problem should it.
if he has a big fit and refuses to compromise then he obviously doesn't care about your feelings
mariage is based on two things trust and compromise. and he has already lost one if he refuses the other then maybe you should try couples consuling.
good luck
2006-11-08 05:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor girl, no one deserves that. I feel so much for you and hope the rest of your life only bring happiness. I am a guy and i can tell you that if he is that much of a selfish prick only after 6 months, there is not much hope for him.
I wish you the best dear.
2006-11-08 05:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he didn't even wait for the ink to dry on your marriage certificate, before he went out and cheated on you, You already know that you need to leave him I guess you needed someone other than yourself to tell you, Leave. It's only going to get worse, don't put yourself through this he doesn't deserve you
2006-11-08 05:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of feeling jealous for others, just think of winning over your man. What lacks in you. What novel ideas you have for him. Why he contacts female friends. Are they really havinf an affair with him and of what level.
Too much possesive attitude sometimes backfires. What you want and desire from him, should be: He should be physically and mentally with you. Start loving him more. Let us win him over again.
2006-11-08 05:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by dash 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him about and tel him straight. u r goin to spend ur lfe wid him and ur life has jsut started. if u keep everythin to urself u r going to end up arguing ova little things, best thing is to get everythin in the open. if he knows how u feel he mite change. it will take time but if ur der for him den he will if he luv's u .
2006-11-08 06:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh... mam, im not experienced enough to tell u the right thing to do. But u keep faith in god, think positive, show him that how much he means to u, and that u care for him the best. GOOD LUCK~!
2006-11-08 05:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by koogii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very selfish man. Wake up dear!!!! He cheated on you and he still have some women friends. Why do you tolerate that????
2006-11-08 05:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋