hi, i am a 27 yr old married man from past few months..I am very lucky to get her as my wife.She is a nice girl and we respect eachother a lot.i love her a lot and i know that she too loves me.But my problem is she is too shy in bed.She tries to hide herself too much when i kiss her and i find her shivering when i hug her and try to make love to her . She does not complain or tells anything about her problem .She is very silent and sobour kind of gal. I have a feeling that she is too shy and scared to discuss about that.but somehow i want her to make her feel happy and comfortable with me in bed.( i am very much big made compared to her...is it because of that)I am sure that she do not have any bad sexual experiance before our marriage. Will my problem be solved if i rape her once. But as i am very big compared to her , i fear about how do i approach her that way....I really dont want to leave this girl as she is a very nice girl but i desperately want to have he
2006-11-07 20:51:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
yeah hopefully if you rape her once she get's over her shyness and presses charges and you get sent to prison where a bunch of men can rape you and then you can say to yourself while getting raped yeah I can see how this was a dumb idea, how the hell would raping your wife help her get over her shyness? wow, I swear, some people
2006-11-07 20:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Raping anyone is a crime and is not the solution to this problem.
It sounds like she has issues or fear about sex either due to inside fears or perhaps she was sexually assaulted at a younger age. I don't know if she is a virgin, but that can be an added factor.
You should both go to a marriage counselor to help you both through this problem. It is the only solution since you cannot solve it alone.
Good luck. :)
2006-11-08 11:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!! NOOOOOOOO!!!!!! You DO NOT RAPE ANYONE... EVER!!!!!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU SERIOUSLY ASKED THAT!!!!
A few months without "sex" is nothing - and so if you say you love your wife - then you ought to be willing to do anything for her. Most marriage vows state for better or for worse... And believe me, you've only been married a few months -- so you don't even know what "worse" is.... Hang in there dude... and if you really want your wife to relax and be open with you.... Read on...
First... YOU need to take a CHILL PILL = RELAX. You should be happy your wife is shy.... at least it probably means that you are her first.
2nd... MEN ARE LIKE MICROWAVES AND WOMEN ARE LIKE CROCKPOTS.... Do you understand the concept??? Basically men are ready to go instantly -- anytime, anywhere. Push a button and the meal is done... from frozen to ready to eat instantly. On the other hand, woman need preparation, and simmering and hours later you can sit down to enjoy a truly sumptious feast.
If you disrespected your wife yesterday... don't be expecting any nookey today....
3. SET THE STAGE.... Everyday, tell your wife she is beautiful.. that you love her.... that you respect her.... that there is no one else on earth you'd rather be with.... that she is your princess and you are the luckiest man on earth... etc. Don't just say it - MEAN IT! Because if you married her... then you should feel this way...
4. Bring her flowers for no reason.... Leave silly little love notes in her purse or on the bathroom mirror.... Sing goofy love songs on her cell phone, etc...
5. Make a dinner date, and just gaze into her eyes like you did when you were dating....
6. Hold hands in public....
7. Take out the garbage.... Wash the dishes.... Prepare dinner once in awhile....etc...
8. Check your personal hygiene -- ie: Make sure you are "clean" and your breath is fresh
All these things set the stage to "making love". With women it starts in the every day things.
AFTER doing some of the above, pick a time when you are both relaxed -- like a Sunday afternoon or whatever and tell your wife that you want to discuss something with her, that is very important to you... And then gently tell her that love making is very important to you and you want to please her, want to know how you can make it easier for her --- Actually if you do all of the above things... this conversation may not even be necessary.
But if it is... Make sure that you LISTEN to what she has to say and that you RESPECT what she says. Your patience and understanding will be rewarded with intimacy that you can only dream about.
If worse comes to worse -- you can always go to counselling... But I would suggest that you purchase AND READ this book:
"SHE COMES FIRST"....
When you make your lady happy -- she WILL make you happy --- READ THIS BOOK!
p.s. -- and if you are"big" like you said and are afraid of hurting her... use a lubricant (like KY Jelly).... Even if you are not big -- use one, because if she is nervous, you will hurt her because women need to be relaxed and comfortable for their own lubrication to flow... And don't just put it on your "member"... put it on/in her gently and lovingly.... it will feel great to her and also relax and stimulate her at the same time. Best to the both of you! --- Just remember... LOVE, HONOR, RESPECT...
2006-11-08 05:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by whatevas 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
rape might only make her suffer till the rest of her life. i guess that approach is wrong. try just tiding her hands to bed and then go down on her. maybe she is always so worried that she gets no orgasm, once she'll have it she'll be more opened.
and if u still want to "rape" her you must do it as tender as possible, not with too much force, not to hurt her physically.
still there r some other methods.. play some game and if she loses make her stript, if she will not do it try to discuss her problem.
it is also easier for shy people to discuss sex in emails or messengers. try writing her email about how you want her and what you would do.
2006-11-08 05:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by Magnetic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH MY GOODNESS, are you really serious?? i think this is a joke? RAPE?????? how is that going to solve the problem?? you are really dumb, maybe you need to get checked out!! you two need to see someone and sit and talk about the problem ur having, like a sex therapist or something, raping her wont help.. anyone in their right mind would no that.. its a crime by the way!!
2006-11-08 13:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... she is deffinitly shy!! If she tries to hide herself!! But it isnt right to raape her!! Maybe u should get in to the shower with her (after she got in and naked) and clean her!! Tell her that how do u feel and tell her that U want to make HER happy and that U know that she feels uncomfortable in bed!!! tell her that this is important for U to have a great sex life!! Talk could resolve everything if talknig wouldnt work write her letters long and honest letters!!! when she is alone she hasnt got why to be shy!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-08 13:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by L...A... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all RAPE is a crime... you can go to jail, married or not. Why would you ask something like that, think about it if you rape your wife the woman who you claim you love will she trust you after that, I know I wouldn't. You don't want to leave her but if you rape her she might leave you, or at least I would hope she would leave you and call the police on you.
2006-11-08 05:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by nicky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r as fake & phony as a three dollar bill!
If u have nothing to do.......just dream of something else........n let ur imagination run wild on global warming, famine n.......diseases in Africa.......drought in most parts of the world.........n hunger in areas where they dont have more than a dollar a day income!
N.......go get in jail........if u wish to.......n have some big inmates make a mess of your behind.........then...... perhaps...it'll get into ur thick headd that rape is NOT a somehting u discuss & enquire if u dhould do to anyone in this civilized world!
Good riddance!
2006-11-09 02:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Mr. Whome so ever u r .. well.. don't do rape.. it will really.. puts a bad impression on ur wife.. but i would really suggest you a best way.. go and ask.. directly.. to your wife.. that.. u wana have.. sex chat with u.. and always try to chat.. on these topics.. n moreover ncourage her to talk on this.. tell her to explore things..that will.. automaticall.y.. solve your problem.. and then you will.. enjoy.. your sex life.. more then before..
2006-11-08 07:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by im_always_right 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Raping her is not a solution . Try to be friendly ,ask her what she wants ,do more foreplay.Understand her .I am sure you will have her cooperation in this way.
2006-11-08 07:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋