hi, i am a 27 yr old married man from past few months..I am very lucky to get her as my wife.She is a nice girl and we respect eachother a lot.i love her a lot and i know that she too loves me.But my problem is she is too shy in bed.She tries to hide herself too much when i kiss her and i find her shivering when i hug her and try to make love to her . She does not complain or tells anything about her problem .She is very silent and sobour kind of gal. I have a feeling that she is too shy and scared to discuss about that.but somehow i want her to make her feel happy and comfortable with me in bed.( i am very much big made compared to her...is it because of that)I am sure that she do not have any bad sexual experiance before our marriage. Will my problem be solved if i rape her once. But as i am very big compared to her , i fear about how do i approach her that way....I really dont want to leave this girl as she is a very nice girl but i desperately want to have her.
2006-11-07 20:48:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say you love her so why the hell would you want to rape her? Have you lost your mind? Obviously she has a reason for being so shy. Just comfort her and love her unconditionally. The 2 of you need to discuss her shyness. Let her know you are there to help her resolve this issue no matter how long it takes. Im sure that with enough love and understanding the 2 of you will get to the bottom of the matter but God Almighty..........DON'T RAPE HER
2006-11-07 21:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! If that were to be your decision, YOU would be the bad sexual experience and she'll never open up. As frustrating as it can be, be gentle and understanding. Try to introduce things slowly. Tell her how pretty she is when she is undressed, let her know that you want to look at her. To this day, I don't understand why my man wants to see me naked, but he tells me all the time how much he enjoys it.
There are also thousands of books that address sex within a marriage in a very tasteful and beautiful manner. Try one of those...again, a little at a time. Making love is a beautiful act, and I hope that you two can work through this.
2006-11-08 09:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by mreheather6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just suggest to talk with her problem by opening a conversation not related to love making until you find time to divert the topic to love making. Start when both of you are on bed ready to sleep on the night. Just be considerate in your conversation and let her talk about she views the sex subject matter so you can get her opinion either she is conservative moderate view in this particcular subject. After listening to her side you will know where to get her weakest point and lead her to convince her that today's generation, both men and women are needed no longer conservatism but to admit the reality and practices adopted these days.We have the same equal rights and equal needs so both of you must initiate love making when one's wants it. During your conversation, you must be tender and considerate to listening to her views.
Do not harass her nor harm her when you initiate love making just do it in a slow but sure technique, while doing love making you still continue conversation with her until such time both of you reached orgasm. When she used of this style in love making, her shyness will fade away and time will come that she will no longer shy to initiate sex with you until she becomes hot in bed.
2006-11-08 05:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES RAPE HER! First, marital rape it is a felony and if anyone finds out -- and I hope someone would -- you'd be sent away to prison and not have to worry about her "shyness." Second, raping her would not bring her out of her shell, but force her farther in, and she will never trust you again.
Actually, I'm not surprised that she seems so afraid of you if you are bully enough to think of attempting such a horrible act.
2006-11-08 04:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't deserve a response... If you think rape is ever a 'solution' to any situation, you need to get help for yourself NOW.
2006-11-08 05:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's never had a bad sexual experience before? she now has
2006-11-08 07:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by out of my wit's end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no. if you want to keep her trust then you will have to go at her pace...not yours.
2006-11-08 07:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋