How can I know that my hymen is intact or not? Please let me know as I m going toget married soon. What if I dont bleed in the first night of my marriage? I dont want to tell my husband that I was sexually molested by my Uncle. So what reasons can I tell him if I dont bleed? Please help
2006-11-07 20:41:20 · 8 answers · asked by nisha k 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
you fell forward while riding your bicycle and rammed your crotch into the handle bars..
you had a bad experience with a pony ride/ hard saddle horn at a carnival while little.
you were playing leap frog at a birthday party and missed jumping over and fell over the kids head wrong (landing on your xxxxx)
you were climbing over a fence and landed on the fence post crooked..
bad experience testing out tampons while young..
need more?... haha!
2006-11-07 20:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mintee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too was molested by an uncle from young. My heart breaks for you as you really shouldn't begin your marriage with lies. I am assuming you have not had sex before with your man, but the hymen is such a delicate piece of human body that it would have definitely broken by penis (maybe finger depending on age...). Having said all that however, be reassured that whilst many believe that the resistance given by the hymen and subsequent bleeding (usually only a couple of spots of blood) is an indication of virginity, it can also be broken by tampons.
Please rethink your decision, as if this is the first time of consensual sex for you, the drama of the trauma of being abused may return at the most inopportune moment that he would almost know that you have been raped at some stage depending on your reaction. Also, please be reassured that lovemaking between husband and wife is a beautiful thing and if you are still having trouble with what happened in your past you need to speak to someone professional regardless of whether you tell your husband or not.
Blessings on your marriage and to you.
2006-11-07 20:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Denise B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sad for you and your predicament, it's nothing really to worry about though, a lot of virgins do not bleed the first time, it's a myth.
I don't know the medical reasons for this, try and check on the internet a bit before you marry.
I don't know which country you're from, but if it's not India or a multitude of other sexually backward cultures, then I'm sure your husband won't even notice .
Don't worry too much, just go with it and relax, and if you send me the address of your uncle, I'll have my boys take care of him for you my dear!
2006-11-07 20:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by fed up with stupid questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can see your hymen by a mirror, u can lay down bend your knees and open ur thighs then u put the mirror in front of the vagina and separate between your labia by one hand fingers then focus the mirror on , then u can visualize the hymen
2006-11-07 20:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by suzan a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a female's hymen breaks when and only when a penis enters your vigina. this means, your hymen is definately broken. well, i would just like to clear something out for you, a woman does not necessarily bleeds even if it is her first time. but, nonetheless, you need to be honest to your husband to be.
2006-11-07 20:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by caige 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
am just sorry, its good you tell him the truth, if he still loves you and he knows it was not your fault he will understand with you. but the fact is that dont say anything to him still after sex on your first night with him if he notice any thing fine, but not all men notice such signs. cheers
2006-11-07 23:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all women bleed on their first time i bled just alittle when i first had sex all women are diff i guess you need to be honest to your husband ...hope it goes well have a good one
2006-11-07 20:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by pisceslady a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all virgins bleed the first time they have sex.
But you need to be sure that you do not want to tell your FH about your past.
2006-11-07 21:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi Momo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋