I am married for the past 2 years.I was in deep love with a guy before marriage.I am not able to forget him?

Question

Has anyone faced such situation? Can anyone help me ?

Answer 1

Its natural... the guy whom you loved before marraige may be a person who had influenced you more. Try to face the reality.. Now that you are married...may be having a kid...Try to involve in some work and keep yourself busy so that you may not get time to think about the time you spent with your lover. Give your love and care to your husband and kid...

Answer 2

Then why did u get married? Do u think its fair to ur husband to be pining for another man while married to him. If u have a loving, decent man now, I`d make an all out effort to forget the past and put ur thoughts into being a good wife. Accept the fact that apparently the other man was not in love with u, so get on with ur new life since it is what u chose. Bury the past, this is now.

Answer 3

I'm experiencing a similar situation. I've been married for 3 yrs and the other guy I've known since I was ten. He all of a sudden shows up when it's too late wishing it were him I was married to. I think of him all the time but I don't think I would have a financially stable life with him which makes my decision easier.

I suggest you weigh the pros and cons to help you decide what's best for you.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Im sorry I did the same, In my expierience my marriage failed because of this, I could no longer pretend to love, I left to be with the man I have loved for so long, my man felt the same and after six years we are still connected trying to get together what we could have had back then.

Answer 5

i understand that you are wondering what your life would have been like if you had ended up with the other guy. it's normal to be curious but if you have really strong feelings about it then maybe your marriage is in a rut. think about the other persin and their flaws could you live with them? maybe it will help you gain perspective on your marriage and help you appreciate your hubby more than before.
and if you really can't get past it you should think about maybe you married the wrong man?

Answer 6

attempt to be effortless with the groom and tell him on the instant up front with reference to the guy for 2 years. in the experience that your going to marry the lady you need to already understand each and every thing there is to renowned approximately her and her previous relationships. in case you do no longer understand each and every thing approximately one yet another than you at the instant are not waiting for marriage. Marriage is a existence time dedication and there must be no secrets and techniques.

Answer 7

why did u have to marry in the first place.
if it is out of compulsion, then im really sorry.

i feel u r are very soft and not vocal about ur wishes, in that case its clear that u u cant do anything about it now. u shud have done it earlier before marriage oderwise. so try to adjust and live with ur husband, i guess he is not that bad afterall!!

or u can simply walk out of ur marriage.......

Answer 8

It's always hard to forget about someone you loved and you won't. Just know everyone leaves a memory in your life and that's what you hold on to. As time goes by, it will slowly fade more and more.

Answer 9

That's ok...we all have those what ifs or why didn't i but it's in the past there's a reason it didn't work out so don't trade what you have now for the past it's loved and lost not loved and put aside for later..

Answer 10

first thing first y did u get marry with ur husband now,since it is not him u love?is it only because u want to forget the person u really love..anyway is this guy loves u also..??coz if he does,,he might be ur husband now..or even fight for ur love before..