Why does your best friend always try steal your guy away?

Question

My friend is rather attractive, but not really pretty. Yes there is a differance. Now I think Im the pretty and not the attractive. So I went out last night with my new guy and my friend. And she never stopped hitting on him. And ofcourse he carried on talking to her. Why does she do that? I know my guy likes me, but he couldnt help himself from talking to her.

Answer 1

Have you ever asked your bestfriend why she do that?

Hm... maybe she's a little insecure over something, or she thinks she's in a competition, and her competitor is YOU.

If that's the case, dump your bestfriend. She is not really your bestfriend if she ALWAYS do that.

Would you still let her have her way if you finally found the love of your life (and if he felt the same about you too)?

Good luck. (",)

Answer 2

Maybe she doesn't realise she is doing it..
I am a very similar creature, in one sense.
I get on far better with men than I do women, so if I am out with a group of friends, tend to spend more time talking to the guys and practically ignoring the women for most of the evening.
I am a natural flirt, not in the things I discuss, I could getting into a quite heated discussion about politics, religion or third world poverty, but I am always playing with my hair etc. I just don't realise I am doing it at the time.
In hind sight I can see how this migh appear to the females in the group that I am flirting with their respective partners/friends, though they would know differently if they heard the conversations..
I would never do anything to hurt any of my friends, male or female and I don't want to cause hassle between any couple, I just feel more comfortable and confident in male company.
Your friend could be of a similar nature and be completely oblivious that she comes across as flirty, and make you feel undermined, though from what you said, as you were there with them and say she was hitting on him, it would appear to me she is insecure and craves attention.
As for your chap, maybe he felt he had to play along in order to be polite, though I would point out that if he liked you that much, he would have been more concious of your discomfort and that should have made him more attentive.
I hope this helps you understand your friends behaviour better and if it really bothers you, you should take her to one side and have a quiet and rational conversation explaining how you feel.
If all else fails and you distinctly feel she is constantly trying to undermine you, then you can do without friends like her and should sever the friendship.
Good luck

Answer 3

you gotta stop being so jealous because you then hide all the good points about yourself. your friend is a flirt yes but dont just pin this on her cos the guy flirted back, you have no control over that. what you need to do is look at the type of friends you have and the type of men you are attracting

Answer 4

Firstly you phrased you question wrong. Best friends NEVER try steal your guy. The minute my friend did that I would cut her loose. The guy too cause he openly accepts the flirting from your... uh.. "Friend". He should Subtly let her know that your the only girl for him and he's immune to that. He doesn't have to be nasty about it, He just needs to be clear. If you don't easily cut people loose just speak to them about and see if they have the potential to change. If you think they do without any doubt then feel free to continue both relationships.

Answer 5

Ok this sounds SO familiar. I have a boyfriend that i have been dating for almost 13 months now and i love him to death and there is this girl that likes him. And she would always hug him and say that she loved him and it ticked me off but i was friends with her and i didn't want to say anything to her or my boyfriend. But now when one day i confronted her she got mad at me and started making stuff up about me and the stuff wasn't true and of corse she had alot of people hating me and it ticked me off more than anything and i don't know why she did it. But my boyfriends like seriously hates her now and i have yelled at her on the computer and in face to face several times and im not gonna let her come inbetween me and my boyfriend and i told her that and i was hurt by it so im telling you if your friend is doing this to you and your boyfriend don't let her do it because if you don't do something he might fall to like her im not saying it will happen im just saying that it might and i don't want that to happen to you and i know you don't want anything to start between you and your friend but you can't let your friend do that to you because if she was a real friend she would flirt with your boyfriend.

Answer 6

If talking is all he did, then you are being unreasonable. He was just being polite by not snubbing your friend. By corollary, if talking was all she did, then you have nothing to worry about. She was just getting to know him.

If it goes beyond talking, then he isn't your 'new guy' any more, and she isn't your 'best friend'. Maybe being pretty isn't good enough for him and he is looking for someone he can talk to?

Answer 7

If you keep it up that negative attitude then you are giving her the advantage to do it more. So do what a girls got to do get your man back at no cost! =D ok good luck!

Answer 8

she's a *****...obviously she's trying to see who's better between you two.she doesnt respect you or your friendship...if i were you i would try my best to get the guy(without exagerating off course)once i get the guy and show her that she messed with the wrong girl,i would dump both...and then i would find someone much better than him.

Answer 9

she was your best friend until you and your guy got together now she is second best and she feels that if she can break you up then you would be hers and things would be back to normal

Answer 10

ditch yr friend she's no friend at all doing that to you,she's probably very jealous of you,does she buy the same clothes as you 2