my fiances ex wife is such a *****.Im a quiet laid back person.They have a 7 yr old and a 10 yr old.It is so sad because all she does is thrive on conflict.Poor kids are always in the middle.Between mom and dad.Shes always turning little things into huge things.Shes a professional liar.I really cannot believe some of the **** this crazy lady comes up with.They've been divorced for three yrs and still just wont stop.Sometimes she'll be cool for a month or 2 then she'll start her **** all over again.I dont know what to do.I dont want to give her what she wants which is apparently me beating her *** once and for all.I cant we will be going to custody court soon and it will never look good.I've just had it Im five mths pregnant with my first baby and im starting to worry about being stressed out from all of this.What should I do?
2006-11-07 18:34:42 · 12 answers · asked by lady2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
relax and be the better woman, she is going to act like that because she is probably jealous.... good luck with the baby!!
2006-11-07 18:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I was in your same boat a few years ago...and beleive it or not...8 years have passed and I still go through drama here and there.
Truth is:
You have over 11 years of bull to put up with! This is just the beginning. Theres the mine, yours and ours issues that will arise, not only with her but with your future husband. You have a LONG road ahead!
This is your first court hearing of plenty more to come...BELEIVE ME!
I was pregnant as well dealing with all the drama and court eharings...I had lots of complications...DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU!
Take control...Prepare yourself for the worst of EVERY situation...This will soften the blow if any outcome is not that harsh! Tell yourself there is a reason why her marriage failed...Remember: she will continue to make your life miserable...as long as she knows she is succeeding. IGNORE IT! Looke completely HAPPY when you enter court hand in hand with your fiance. She will continue her escapade until she finds a partner (than can deal with her bull...)
As far as beating her ***, who cares about how it looks to the court...YOU ARE PREGNANT...you are now having the responsibilty of being a mother! Your Priority: is you and your unborn child....
Good Luck :)
2006-11-07 18:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For such a laid back person you sure want to go beat up on her. This issue should be handled by your fiance. You are the one stressing out but what is he doing about it? You have to realize that because they have kids together, she is always going to be in his life...if only for the kids. You can continue to stress about it or you can let your soon to be husband take care of her. Your choice.
2006-11-07 18:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i'm hoping you're a troll. however the unhappy fact is that there are evil egocentric people available precisely such as you. Karma is an stunning equalizer and a few day you will get yours....via having teenagers via a guy who will cheat on you in case you're pregnant and could depart you for a woman who will deal which incorporate your toddlers with disdain and condescension. you are able to no longer fix gruesome. and you're gruesome interior...even once you're a troll. in case you're actually not a troll, i think of you're a bad individual and should no longer get married. at the start, you're marrying somebody who you already know for a fact to be a cheater. you're actually not from now on particular than his first spouse....and which incorporate your nasty recommendations-set, you easily are much less particular than his first spouse. If he cheated on her, he will cheat on you....and doubtless even deliver abode an STD like herpes which you are able to have for something of your existence. Secondly, he's a kit handle his teenagers. you assume him to desert his teenagers for you. If he will abandon his very own toddlers this rather, he will purely as rather abandon you. and much greater rather, he will abandon any toddlers he makes with you. Oh and via the time he leaves you (with the clap) and your 2.5 toddlers, you will no longer be youthful and warm. Your boobs will sag, your butt could have its very own zip code, your hair would be all frizzy with the aid of fact diapers, formulation and faculty aspects are a greater physically powerful priority than procuring salon high quality hair care products, and you will no longer bear in mind the final time you had a nail cropping. i can't wait to be sure you interior the courting scene then. good success in this marriage.
2016-10-03 10:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company. Kill her with kindness believe me it works and it will make you feel so much better. I had to deal with baby mama drama before and my ex just didnt have sense to ignore her and her phone calls. Women always try to use the kids against the dad but when it comes down to it she is going to want to go out and she will find a boyfriend eventually maybe not for long and she is going to need you and your fiance to help with the kids. Men put up with so much bullshit from there baby mamas. You need to talk to your fiance and tell him how you feel about it. Believe me she is not worth being upset over and beating her a$$ will make it worse. I wish you best of luck Just try to ignore her stupid a$$ and take care of yourself
2006-11-07 20:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the fiance is missing from this picture.......where is he, in all this? He should be backing you up, and taking care that this ex is not going to interfere with your lives. I know it's the sort of thing that no one wants around them; but I'm afraid it's a fact of life and the sooner you face that the better. Now there are ways to sort this out; but not without some backup from your man. Better get him to take control.
2006-11-07 18:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by sigoviafan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your hormones. You are putting too much thought and effort into this ho. Your fiance is the one that needs to deal with her. You shouldn't have to be stressed out from her one bit. Tell your man to take care of the problem. Even better, go find her a man so she can leave you guys alone. lol
2006-11-07 18:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it or not this is between your fiance and his ex, you need to just let him handle it and keep out of it. It will be hard because you love him but they are their kids and you don't need the stress.
2006-11-07 18:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes the one that needs to deal with her, and tell her where to stick it, dont be stressing yourself over here, worry about your baby, that you will be having. shes not worth losing a baby over, especially fighting her while being pregnant. good luck
2006-11-07 18:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be around when she comes over.. if shes droping the kids off, stay in the house.. she has no need or buisness to come into your home. talk with your man about this and put your foot down you do NOT want her at your home
2006-11-07 18:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋