surely the kids deserve a dad or at least the chance of a dad. How would you feel if you knew you came from donated sperm?
2006-11-07 18:31:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
ha, u asked "how would you feel if...?"
well, i am an actual product of it.
it sux.
i'm a happy person, but not knowing ur father and missing out on all the opportunities you could have had with him is heartwrenching. thinking about when i get married, in the case that i do, that i won't have someone to walk me down the isle...that i'll have to deal with my future children asking why they don't have a grandpa on my side of the family...that all sux. finding out sux too. i've known the majority of my life, but the way i found out wasn't so great. and a lot of people i talk to who were conceived the same way also oppose it. in fact, there are very few of us who don't. and the fact that we will most likely never find him...no matter how hard we try...is just ridiculous. makes me mad, and infuriates the hell out of a lot of us. actually, many of us end up in therapy for it. and then of course there's the issue of all our half-siblings out there too. it's quite overwhelming.
most of us would love for sperm donation, egg donation, and surrogacy to end, but unfortunately there aren't many backing us that i know of other than us. even on the very personal level, sometimes our families won't back our efforts. i know my mom won't, because she takes offense at my opinions on it and has pretty much forbidden me from speaking to her about it ever again. it would be really nice if we could get a shout out there that this is harming a lot of potential people and that it needs to end. and it'd be nice if the people who aren't exactly "one of us" would help us out.
2006-11-10 09:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by luckyturtle788 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is a very delicate subject isn't it? I can't have a baby as my husband has a low sperm count. It could be an option for us to use donated sperm but I think it's wrong myself. I don't want just 'A' baby I wanted my husband's. I know that science is fantastic (ask anybody who's had successful ivf treatment) but where do we stop? Just because we can make babies in laboratories should that give women the right to have a baby without any regard to how that child will grow up feeling about it's conception or outside of the family unit that, under other circumstances, we're always so keen to point out that it's the best circumstances to have a child and it's wrong to conceive, for example, by having a one night stand. Is that so different?. I don't pretend to have an answer for everyone's case but, speaking as someone who could benefit from this procedure, I still think it's wrong somehow.
2006-11-08 05:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that women should have the right to make their own choice in the matter. If a woman would rather take a chance on getting some kind of STD or something that could end her life by sleeping around to attempt pregnancy, that is her choice. If she decides to be safe and have a sperm donor, then I really commend that choice. Let's face it, these days, most men end up just being sperm donors because they are willing to have sex with women, but not take up the responsibility for the children that they helped to create.
If I found out I was a child of a sperm donor, I wouldn't be angry, maybe disappointed that I will never really know my father, but I can't change what would have already been done.
2006-11-07 18:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Angie K 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I agree that kids deserve a father figure. Sperm donors aside, look at all the kids who do not have dads because they up and bailed out, or just didn't want the responsibilty. Look at lesbian couples.... how else are they supposed to have kids? Some women really want the oppourtunity to be pregnant. I do not necessarily think it is a bad choice, maybe not something I would do, but certainly not bad.
2006-11-07 18:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL! Sounds like someone has a problem there and its not the women.
Yes children should have a father figure in their lives but that can be filled by grandads or uncles too. Some women want a child but not the hardship of having a man under foot all the time.
I wouldn't feel any different than I do now as the sperm that any child is made with is *donated* since it is not a natural product of the woman's body.
2006-11-07 20:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think - kids are for people who are able to find a partner for them self and for people who are healthy and able to have them. I also fully understand to reasons why women wants a baby.. but.
and how I would feel ? I would be very sorry that I do not have a dad. Even the mother would be great. I think we should leave this to the nature.
2006-11-07 18:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by David B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, for one, believe that it is wrong. But I can understand the woman's position more so than the men who donate the sperm.
At least the woman will be raising and caring for this child that is half hers -- the men will have children on this earth for which they have no concern and no contact.
2006-11-07 18:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I think that it's not right to have kids from unusual way ; although it's your own sperm. You will miss one precious thing that every women undergo... however if yo got problem with urself, there always alternatives way sch that. anyway just ask your inner self.
2006-11-07 18:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by eurika! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be freakin' upset. i definately believe there should be a father even if distant. People have told me to think about having kids that way since marriage doesn't seem to be happening(again) but I won't I don't think it's fair.
2006-11-07 18:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. All research shows that children grow up best in a stable family unit with a father and a mother.
2006-11-08 02:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by MrsC 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋