how should i behave toward my son?

Question

i,ve gotten a 16 years old son , getting ready for his biggest exam which is sord of evaluthon in university entrance.
he is smart and did exelant so far.
lately he seemed so tired and told his mother that he should see a psychietrist because he thinks he is loosing his times and unable to concentrate.
you better know that we are moslim , living in iran and socially far different from others in many parametrs like sexual behaviors.there aint no girlfrieds,boyfrinds , stuf like that.personally i like this because mind in this case doesnt have to botter itself on such atitude.may be not.
i just told him that it is a good idea to see a doctor even though i know what would a doctor tell him but he better take that from him or her rather than me or his mother.
i know what would you tell me.so you better tell me something different.i,m sorry for being rude.who ever you are , you are doing me a favor and i preciate that for sure.
my behavior is like a friend toward him....

Answer 1

see he doctor and make sure he has no illness first worry about other stuff later

Answer 2

I'm a muslim too, although I'm from Jordan, I recoginse the social situation you describe. I don't know your son's situation well enough to be sure, but one very important thing for coping with such situations is physical training. Lack of physical training combined with stress can easily result in concentration problems.

Running, biking, squash, walking, hiking...there are many possibilities and they are all good. At least 30 minutes exercise every day can do miracles.

Answer 3

Several things could be causing your son this problem.
* Good diet with good amount of protein(meat,egg etc),carbohydrates, fruits and vegetables along with mineral and B complex and c.
* May be he is reading long hours with out break, whiich could cause boredomand losing intrest, lot of people get confused with quantity and quality. It helps to take regular breaks, especially taking a walk out side.getting some fresh air.
* He is at that age should daily spend some time playing some game or exercise for physical activity, which iltimately makes him more effcient.
* Last , but not least should learan to control stress, by diverting his mind by walk or exercise

Answer 4

I was just going to suggest that it might just be nutritional. Often with young kids who are really pushing the limit with study and all the other issues of growing up, fitting in, etc etc, that they often need more stamina. Getting a really good B complex tab/cap with at least 50 mgs of each of the B group vitamins would probably help. Also a protein drink, daily, with a high protein content. It's important that you "fuel the car" else it won't run. It's the same thing with the human body: fuel it properly, else it won't run!
Good luck with sorting this out.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you're having problems communicating with your son. Teens are difficult to understand. A doctor or counselor may be a good idea. Living where you do, the boy's probably under a lot of stress. Good luck.

Answer 6

i can not help yet imagine we are purely listening to 0.5 the tale the following. There could were some founding reason behind her to speak for your husband like that, and that i think that a minimum of a few of this stems from being completely pissed off at your son for some reason or yet another. And once you're telling him to go away her for all time, and he's perhaps speaking that, you've were given to anticipate an escalation in hostility from her, honestly? you're saying he 'has' to be distressed at her behaviour. it really is clearly an assumption on your area else you'll say that has informed you. i imagine maximum of the issue is you being upset in him for not figuring out on someone like his mom.

Answer 7

im from iran too i study in the second year of high school and i have this problem too. it has two reasons that yuor son strudies too much i mean in farzanegan highschool(tiz hooshan)this highschool will result in man deaseses and they force students to study and learn too much. they teach them lessons that they will learn two or three years later.it has a bad effect.i found a good resource for myself i went to london with my family about two months ago and i realize that iran is the worst place in the world to study or living there was no pressure on my father how to make money and there was many ways to make money schools and highschool were very good there no pressure on childrenand i was so happy there without having girlfriends and things like this when i got back to iran i thought that im died and now im trying to get back to england as soon as possible and there is easy for iranian to go to england and the other thing that imust say is taht your son will not recover by going to doctor and he will get worse next year for the entrance exam to university.if you need further information send me an e-mail:([e-mail]) movafagh bashid khodanegahdar

Answer 8

Your question is a bit hard for me to understand but from what you said i think this may help.....Maybe all your boy needs is a bit of good old fashioned fun with dad and or his friends more often to take the pressure of his heavy school workload. Some regular fresh air, fun and laughter can do so much for ones wellbeing. All the best.

Answer 9

your son is probably under stress with the big exams that he's going to sit for. As a parent, i think you should try to encourage him as much possible. Give him some "moral boost" with words like, i know you can do it... or even don't worry, you'll do well in your exams... If your relationship with him is like a friend, i'm sure he will tell you whats going on.

Answer 10

I think that he may be exhausted from his studies, and yes a doctor, is a good idea, as we seem to listen to them even we have been told the exact same thing by parents or friends. I also wish you son well on his test

Answer 11

Sounds to me like stress in connection with his studies and striving for excellence. Perhaps there is some way to reduce mental anguish here. A psychiatrist may not be needed. Rest, however, is called for.