is it possible for individuals who are married to find someone else sexually attractive, even if there's no marital problems @ home? how does one deal with the temptation?
2006-11-07 18:18:51 · 21 answers · asked by big mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, absolutely. Just because we're married it doesn't mean we're blind and can't appreciate beauty when we see it. It's part of being human. If u are happy in your marriage, dealing with temptation should be a non-issue. U simply just don't act upon your attraction to others.
2006-11-07 18:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how a married person that is happy in their marriage and loves their spouse can be sexually attracted to anyone else. I believe they can find others attractive but not in a sexual way. To deal with it they should stay away from the temptation. Maybe even see a counselor, depends if they want to save their marriage.
2006-11-08 02:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree, just because we're married, it doesn't mean we're blind or dead. To deal with temptation, you should remind yourself why you married your spouse to begin with, and what you would lose if you gave in to the temptation. Usually, the consequences are not worth the fun you might have with someone else.
2006-11-08 02:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As years go on longer, the feeling on each other getting faded away, many temptations go in our minds. Some factors affecting the spouse when a wife does no longer pay attention to herself fixing maintaing herself personality to be blooming, maintaining weighed her body into slim, you and your spouse will lose interest to each other and vice versa. These will These will lead either or both of you to cheat secretely. You can't stop thinking yourself how you deserve sex more than ever. You even think to have an extra mariatal affair with some one other than your husband secretely because you need something your spouse can't give you or you need to taste another kind of varieties.. Many a married persons find more attractively to other opposite sex specially some-one's spouse. When things going unsettled, these feeling grows until one will not contented to their spouse and then leading them to cheat.
My suggestion is both the spouse should be opened to each other and discuss how tto bring back their old times memories to go on dating again. Otherwise, if your feeling to your spouse will continue fading and you are no longer interest to have him sexually and you will think to commit cheating yourself.
Some spouse adopting or using sexual fantacies to boost their sexual urges during lovemaking without informing their partners/spouses secretly.
2006-11-08 02:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is true for both guys and girls.
Just don't let it get past "looking". Spend time doing things you love to do with your spouse, and keep your marriage strong, and the temptation will not get too strong.
don't give yourself any "opportunities" with a person you find sexually attractive
2006-11-08 02:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by kristin c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that fit this question. Like "Married, not buried" I work in a restaurant and often use this one. "just because you read the menu, it doesn't mean you are going to order" I think if you don't find others sexually attractive, you are either blind, or just not really looking.
2006-11-08 02:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that!
That's the most wonderful thing about a long term committment: you may be attracted to other people, but your loyalty is to your partner.
Enjoy the attraction, but just make sure it doesn't go beyond that.
2006-11-08 02:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest with you, I'm tired of caring about what my husband is thinking. He for a long time was checking out females in front of me etc. I asked him why and he said he likes looking at sexy women. I asked him if he could NOT do it front of me atleast cause it is not gentleman behavior. And he agreed. He says he doesn't look at them in a sexual way but I doubt that and frankly I don't care anymore. If I married a perv I only did it to myself right? lol
And me on the other hand, I have been cursed with the "eyes for my man only" syndrome...lol
2006-11-08 02:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is my opinion on that, for what its worth. I think that its perfectly natural to be attracted to and notice people of the opposite sex. We are human beings and when we see someone who is attractive to us, would'nt it be un-natural not to notice. Its when you act on those attractions, that you get into a problem. If you are happy in your marriage, you should have no problem with just admiring from afar.
2006-11-08 02:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are not blind or dead- and don't feed temptation and it won't be a problem=there are all kinds of good looking people out there= D
2006-11-08 02:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋