is it healthy for a relationship to have girlfriends push their steady boyfriends to secure a bank account and continuously save money in it before getting married?
2006-11-07 17:33:16 · 11 answers · asked by daejanggeum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have plans to marry then this should've been something he already thought of. Pushing him to do anything with his money will most likely cause resentment on his part. It's like telling him you don't trust his judgement.
On the same token if he weren't responsible enough to think about saving up for the future in the first place, I would think twice about even marrying him.
2006-11-07 17:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Leila G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have a joint savings account that we opened together long before we were married. Mind you we were living together this account we both have to go into the bank to take the money out of, so that way we actually save more money. We transfer money into it whenever we can.
Are you planning on getting married? Do you live together and have done so for a long period of time? If you say yes to either or both of those questions maybe sit down and talk to him. Explain your concerns. Saving money for anything is always a good thing.
2006-11-07 17:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by magsmolsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the back bone of a happy married life. But to strength the life you need money. To buy a house, to buy furniture for new house, ...... etc you need some amount of money. So it is quite intelligence to have steady increasing bank account before marraige.
2006-11-07 19:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by deansubasinghe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think so... i could never ask a man i wasn't married to to put money in a bank account that i could access however when i married my husband i wasn't intrested in money i married him because i love him
2006-11-07 17:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a male point a saving account wouldnt be a bad idea cause then you and your mate wont have to worry who is spending how much in your main account but if youwant something it wont be taken away from each other and it helps out also
2006-11-07 17:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by KANEBRO2DANITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend should be grown up enough to do this on his own. Sounds like you are being his mommy. Would you like him to tell you what to do with your money?
2006-11-07 17:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You and him need to be on the same level about this. Pushing him into it will cause problems.
2006-11-07 17:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he is the one working for the money in question, he should do what he wants with it.
2006-11-07 17:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do this as boyfriend and girlfriend...there is no commitment. when you get engaged go for it but don't rush into finances without being committed to one another.
2006-11-07 18:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, wait until the couple are at least engaged, that way you know you are serious
2006-11-07 18:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋