My boyfriend and I are looking for our own place,so for now we are living 45 mins apart at our parents' houses.While we were talking about living together in general,he made it CLEAR that I shouldn't expect him home more than 3-4 nights a week,because he has "other things to do".This won't be the first time living together, while we were in college he lived with me at my moms for almost 2 yrs,so now college is over we need to find a place of our own. What he doesn't understand is that while being together 24/7 ruins a relationship,so does never seeing eachother at all.I also have health problems that may make me unable to be home alone with my son everynight,and he acts as if it's nothing serious.I don't want to sound like a controlling b*tch,but I just want to be able to spend time with my significant other, without time limits and days-a-week schedules. I do not want to stay living with my mom,but also do not want to live with my sig. other if we never see eachother. Read details...
2006-11-07 17:19:47 · 8 answers · asked by Just Me 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know we are going through a tough spot in the relationship and we can work through it, but for now, my debate is to stay living at my mom's or move in with him? Either way, I will still be alone 99% of the time.
2006-11-07 17:21:36 · update #1
My son is not his biological child. His father and I are not together. He is a marine and hasn't been home for two years, so my boyfriend has been there for the both of us.
2006-11-07 17:25:58 · update #2
Stay with your mom.
Because you should shack up with someone who doesn't want to commit. And he obviously does not want to commit. May I suggest you lay back and make him make all the moves to get in contact with you. Make him work a little for it and he may appreciate what he has in you.
2006-11-07 17:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 09:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by winkels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry hon, that's what you get when you play house without the paperwork. Your guy? is not married and can act like a kid and a bachelor..he may even have another woman.
A good man wants to be with you if he loves you. It isn't all parties with the guys and funtime for him.
You mentioned a son..i guess its his....why is your bf allowed to run around? why isn't he taking an active part in feeding, cleaning, fathering, teaching his son? And most of all why doesn't he work to support his son?
he could come over and do housework and laundry.....
Distance yourself from him...let him go..he isn't finished growing up or playing. Get yourself a real man who wants to treasure you and what you stand for. Believe me, you are better off without the bum.
2006-11-07 17:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest... The way you wrote that tells me you don't think it's a good idea but you're willing to try it anyway because you're in a relationship. Here's the thing, that's crap. I would venture to say that if you were to put your son first you probably wouldn't move. Besides, this guy sounds like a sniveling snot monster that'll end up in the gutter and you don't want to be drug down there with him.
2006-11-07 17:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not ready to be alone wait until he is sure he can be the man you want and need you have a child dont move and get all lonely and stress out you have your son to think about good luck and take care of your self
2006-11-07 18:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with your Mom. She will always be there to help you out. Plus if he can't commit to you. Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who can't commit? You deserve better!
2006-11-07 18:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is that his kid he doesnt care to see more than 3 or 4 nights a week? This is a recipe for disaster, dont do it.
2006-11-07 17:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shacking up is a bad idea in my opinion...there should be a commitment
2006-11-07 19:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋