My best friend. She'd do anything for me, and I'd do the same for her. But lately, I've been super jealous of her. I used to be the photography star at school, but then she took my place. I used to be be my photography teacher's favorite, but lately, I've lost that, thanks to my best friend. Today, things got worse. My teacher invited her to participate in a statewide photograpy contest, but didn't say anything to me. Plus, my teacher ALWAYS talks to her about her work, but with me, she just gives me a grade. It used to be the other way around. My best friend does not gloat, or brag, she's just taken my place, and I don't know how to get over it
2006-11-07 15:51:34 · 5 answers · asked by Liv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I used to feel the same way about my sister, who is 9 years younger than me. I realize it's different because in my case it was sibling rivalry, but I always felt she "took" my place. after she came along, she just excelled in everything I was ever good at, and then was good in other things that I really sucked at too!
how could i live with this? it drove me crazy. But I remember reading that people in this life do not "ask" for their gifts (sorry, I can't even remember where I read this!) and that there are things about the person you may not even know, like secret heartaches and trials and tribulations that you do not want.
Also, I just figured there must be some way that I am different and got determined to find it.
And then I also got the thought that some of this she might have picked up or actually learned from me, since I spent so much time with her as a child trying to "teach" her.
that is just my example, but when it comes to creative people who are friends, you can inspire each other rather than "rival". sometimes it is best to be in the company of someone who shares your talents and interests and you can each learn from the other. realize too, that you will both have your ups and downs, and continue to be there for each other.
2006-11-07 18:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by kristin c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is an easy solution to it, and if not followed things can go really wrong. i think that you need to just be chill, and let it go. Its kinda a waste of time if you are worrying about small things like that. I think you should act normal to everyone, your friend and teacher, and who knows, she might just behave the same as before with you when she knows you are being yourself. And so what if your friend is taking over, she isnt killing you, i think its a very small think that if you take it to the head, you could screw up your friendship and your grades. So be cool, act normal, and just chill, there is nothing to loose if you are yourself.
2006-11-08 01:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by aplpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over it! You seem to think that you're more important and that you're it! You should be thinking about and feeling happy for your best friend, instead you're angry because she's getting the attention you used to get. Why don't you try being a friend and be happy for her and be there for her for a change. True friends are there for each other and happy for each other. Try it! You might be surprised at how good it feels to have a friend and be a true friend. It 's a wonderful feeling!
2006-11-08 01:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be jealous of her, you should be proud of her. She never took your place in the first place. You just didn't do anything about it. So i suggest you go do your own thing and help each other out. Do other things that won't bother you. ok =D
2006-11-08 02:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Element 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what is going on and how can you two fix it, I know she will be willing to help you as she is not doing this on purpose, and might help you get your confidence back
2006-11-07 23:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋