I am out of high school, graduated this year in the summer because I didn't try in school, despite me having CP classes and having a intelligent mind but not intelligent choices. my mom wasn't on me because I was actually focusing on school. she tells me to get a job. I want to get one now because I just turned 18 etc, etc, I know I need one, I definitely need the money. I was basicaly forced to go to a JC college very recently and I understand the concepts, even know most of what my teachers are saying already. but I don't study, I haven't put any effort because I have been accustomed to failing since junior year in high school. back then I was drinking more than anybody else could, and doing drugs like crazy.
now I sit at home not doing anything, while my brothers go to HS and college, and my mom works, and I do nothing. I have gone online, played video games, and done enough drugs to know what it has for me.I just dont know how to change. I want to change, but I dont have the motiv
2006-11-07 15:39:06 · 8 answers · asked by l u m i n o u s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
***** I have been through too much to just give up, but I want to know how to get away from all the temptations everywhere and make it easier for me to focus on school. no one can start off succeding doing well out of nowhere. I am perfectionistic. I love art, love learning etc but even now I am not doing my papers and having to drop out of my classes. alot of this is because I feel forced to go to college, If I was able to decide I think I would want to do it anyway, if I wasnt treated like a child but I know I am acting like one. I have always ran away from my problems but now I want to make thing better but dont know how
2006-11-07 15:42:43 · update #1
and hell no I'm never enlisting in anything. ***** that, they sign your live away, the govt does. I got one firend in the marines, two friends in the army, and one in the navy. I got many more choices than any governent thing that screws you over.
2006-11-07 15:49:38 · update #2
That's something only you can do. You have already made the first step by realizing you need to change. Cold turkey is the best thing to do with the drugs. Just stay away for awhile til you can handle being around it without doing it.(if friends are a problem) Go to school everyday, go to the library to study so you don't feel like doing anything else. Go get a job and go to work everyday. It wont take long and it will all be normal. Depending on the drug you are doing you need to get help. I know how you feel but now I am 25 and have 3 kids and never got to go to collage. I have a decent job but it could have been better. If thinking about your futur isn't motivation enough then you may have a bigger problem than you realize.
2006-11-07 15:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, sis, is that you?
You sound just like my sister, except now she's 26 and hasn't held a job for more that a couple of months, and any bit of money she gets she uses for drugs.
If you really can't get motivated, go get help, whether it's drug counseling or psychotherapy. I can relate more than you think, having kicked a 5-year habit that ruined my life. I've been sober for over a year now, while my sister continues down the wrong path. I'd hate to see someone as young as you squander away the opportunites you've been given, but I know it's harder than it seems. If you don't get help, your parents will continue to enable your behavior and you'll never find your motivation.
2006-11-07 15:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your mind up as to what you want and go out and get
whatever it is . You have the whole world at your feet .
Or you can go on as you are , drinking and doin drugs and
end up with no life and spend your golden days
if you make it there , wondering what went
wrong . We only get one chance at
this thing we call life , don't
waste it !
2006-11-07 15:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you need to seek professional help for your addictions nothing will change for the better until you do that and learn to get motivated again
2006-11-07 15:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cranky: Enlist in the U.S. Marine Corps or Foreign Legion either one of those groups have the immediate solution for your dilemma. Try it ... you will be glad you had !!! Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-07 15:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need professional help, so that you can see the vegetable that you have become, As far as I can see you have no plans no ideas, no promise,no drive, so get off you butt and go and get help now
2006-11-07 15:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame your parents or anyone else for your bad choices.You sound depressed,i am too,can't help you there.Help me.
2006-11-07 15:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations........talk to someone in your immediate family so they can help guide you..........the best of luck.
2006-11-07 15:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋