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My best friend is a lesbian and she really is the greatest friend I could have ever asked for.On my birthday we all went out and got drunk and she ended up telling me that her feelings for me are deeper than just friends. I mean the world to her and she could never ask for anything more than my friendship but she is very attracted to me. I think the world of her but I am confused as to what my feelings for her are. I originally thought I just had "Friend Feelings" for her but for the last couple of weeks before my birthday I have been really confused and i have been having a lot of dreams about her. I think about her all the time and now that she told me how she feels about me. I don't know if I am as straight as I thought I was. And my feelings are just a lot of confusion. Please help me figure this all out so I dont lose her. I dont think my life would be complete with out her in it in some way but i dont know what way. HELP!!!!!

2006-11-07 15:29:18 · 16 answers · asked by tigerlike8585 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

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I dont consider myself a lesbian in anyway! Matter of fact i am married with 2 kids now but i had the same ordeal. Women have the ability to be suck GREAT friends with one another doesnt mean you dont like guys and it doesnt mean you cant just try it out if your comfortable with it.
Anyway this girl and i were best friends she was so cool to me, but she was a lesbian we made-out once when we were drunk and i thought it was weird but then we became roomates, and still were the best of friends, we eventually evolved into a g-friend/g-friend relationship and it truely was the best friend and relationship i ever had, but the truth was i wasnt gay, i wanted a marriage.
Theres not a day that goes by that i dont think about the best relationship i ever had, the feeling of being able to do whatever and feel so comfortable about it because she to was a women going through everything i was.

Good luck and remember

YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE

2006-11-07 15:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by renee h 1 · 0 0

You could be confused upon hearing your friend was a lesbian. Did you feel the same way before she told you? If so then it must be a crush but if not then it's only because you know she likes you or maybe because there is now a chance you can be together. You know if you are in love or something when all you want to do is hear them talk, be with them, dream of them, and you have daydreams about them. And junk, and if you get jealous if someone else flirts with them

2006-11-07 23:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you feel very flattered by her feelings towards you, but don't let that change how you felt before about your sexuality. If you liked men before, I doubt that's changed. You don't just become a lesbian over night. You either have always been one or you never were. Plain and simple. I think you have to sort these feelings out for yourself-but without alcohol. You need to be thinking clearly if you want to figure out how to deal with your friend. If you realize you don't feel the same, just tell her. If she's really a good friend, she'll understand. Good luck. Hope this helped.

2006-11-07 23:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 2 1

She was drunk or pretending so she could tell you her feelings.

This is a case where suggestion may have bred the new like.

Do as you honestly feel you should, your instinct, and that is not the thing that keeps popping into your head at night, but whatever is in the background of it all, whatever makes you hesitant and confused.

2006-11-07 23:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0 0

Well assure her that you do care about her and no matter what you rather have her as a friend than nothing at all, even if she does have feelings for you!

As for your personal views of self-orientation, everyone has gone through it!!!

Even i...

Now I am ok being gay, everyone is different. There's various ways to know if you really are...

-look at her picture, do you feel sexual attraction as well as emotional love attraction???
-Do you feel attracted to females more than males???
-Have you always had these feelings since you were very young... or did you just start developing?
-----if just started, mabey your just curious...---- that's all...

2006-11-07 23:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by redsands 2 · 0 0

Follow your feelings and your heart no mather what other people may think. Do what feels right to you. If she truely is your best friend you won't loose her no mather what you decide to do. Don't love her or fall in love with her because you're afraid of losing her, that wouldn't be fair to her but most of all that wouldnt be fair to yourself.
Good luck : )

2006-11-07 23:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by dutchess 2 · 0 0

maybe you should take a little longer to think about it. go with what your heart tells you to do. my advice is to make sure you are 100% sure with your answer when you tell her what you think. if shes your best friend and you decide that you would rather stay on the straighter path then tell her. im sure she would understand if you 2 are very close.

2006-11-07 23:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by HANNAH S 5 · 0 0

these are really very hard feelings to sort out, you need to sit down and think long and hard about how you truly feel about her. Definately don't lead her on but if you do have romantic feelings toward her, be clear about that too.

2006-11-07 23:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0 0

well you have to sit down and think about your feels is it possible that you could try it out or that you have more that friend feeling to her.i dont know girl experiment all the time.

2006-11-07 23:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0 0

have a talk with her and open up to her and tell her what is on your mind, that is the only way to handle it.

if you feel like you are unsure of your choice, maybe she could help you.

2006-11-07 23:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by sister cool breeze 4 · 0 0

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