Do you think a man can change if he cheats?

Question

if he only cheat once

Answer 1

You know so far everyone basically has said NO. I disagree. First of all it does not matter what his resaon was cause bottom line is its wrong and he knows it. You have a choice to make not necessarily him. Trust is what married people live and die by and it is very hard to regain or earn back. If this is a marriage you mutually think is worth salvaging then unfortunately you're the one that will have to deal with the affair more than him. Be frank and sit down, discuss your future if there is a chance for one. Don't ask for the details, its not worth it because you will be hurt and he will not want to discuss them. Even if this happened yesterday it is still considered the past and we can never change the past. From now on agree to start the trust process over and it will be hard, think about it...if he's late from work what is your 1st thought, phone rings and they hang up what is your 1st thought...exactly. You can think it all you want but some days traffic really is going to be bad, think it just don't accuse him only if you see a pattern then thats fair. Its hard I know cause I've gone through it and after 15 years marriage. You must try hard not to punish him for life or use it as a weapon every time you have an arguement to throw in his face though its so tempting. This is more work on your part.You will know if whatever he had on the outside is worth more to him than what he has at home but you will also know that at least you tried. I always say "You can FORGIVE but you will NEVER forget" Its been 6 yrs for me and I still at times think about it time to time but we are people and we will always make mistakes, the decent ones try to correct them. Remember do not throw it in his face as punishment, if he is sorry and regretful he is dealing with his own internal guilt and that will last him a lifetime. Good luck, been there. email me if you want to talk. Bye

Answer 2

I am not sure about this answer. I believe all people and situations are different. My now husband had a history of cheating on his ex-wife. NOT WITH ME!!! I have no reason to think or believe that he has on me. I hope he has not and will not. Our relationship is totally different than his last. I can say that if he does I will never be able to have a comfortable relationship with him again, I do not think I would ever trust him if he did. In conclusion I guess so far so good that a cheating man can change. But as for me and me being the one cheated on I could not stay. My own personal reasons would not allow me to. I hope this has helped. GOOD LUCK!!!! :o)

Answer 3

I was married for 10 years and my husband cheated on me while we were trying to get pregnant with our first child. After I found out I had a difficult time getting over it. Every relationship is different and everyones emotions are different. If you think you can forgive then go for it. At least you have tried. Unfortunately for me it didn't work however post divorce counseling worked wonders in regards to us continuing a relationship as parents. If you are both willing I would suggest counseling. I wish you luck because I know how emotionally scarring this is for you. Hang in there. (but only if you want to)

Answer 4

Yes, if he is willing! The root of why he cheated must be addressed. Is it social pressure, distorted view of women, high sex drive and yours is low and he feels neglected, do you make him feel attractive, is he caught up in porn? Etc. Cheating is definitely a sign that something is wrong with the relationship! It takes two to keep the fire burning. A committed relationship requires open and honest communication. Is it in him? If not, then the answer is NO.

Answer 5

try to find out why he cheated you at the first place ? is there some problem, was he not satisfied with you, is there something missing ? if you can find the reason why he cheated you before, and u r sure that those matters can be resolved then rest at peace, he will stick with you, if you feel issues which caused his first cheating are still at large, he will do it again, if u r understanding things will improve, there is no brutality which cannot be conquered by an unconditional love. have faith in ur goodself.

Answer 6

Depends.

If he cheated on someone else (other than you, his current partner) then the dynamics of his relationship are different than the dynamics of his relationship with a previous partner.

If he cheated on you, the chances are pretty good (but not 100%) that he will cheat on you again, unless the dynamics of your relationship change considerably, and for the better.

Answer 7

Depends why he cheated and he may not even know why. Is there an underlying problem at home, is he stressed about work and feels powerless, etc. If that was the cause, then yes. Increase communication, work together to solve problems, see a counselor.

Answer 8

It requires a willingness to lead a honorable life, and that requires a surrender to the will of the Creator. Lot's of men have done it. Promise Keepers was founded on this principle and gets some good results apparently. So do 12 step programs and men's church groups.

It's possible...but requires willingness, and a desire to change.

Answer 9

Yes.

Everyone deserves a second chance. But they have to be sincere in wanting the second chance and remorseful.

My partner cheated on my during a very rough time. I forgave him, but forgetting is the hard part. He made himself very transparent in everything he does now, and is doing everything to make me feel secureabout the relationship.

Its a long hard road but worth it, if its meant to work out.

Answer 10

It is possible but why give him the chance. Women cheat too and I would say the same thing about them. Why lower yourself to the point where you are willing to take back someone who hurt you?