what would you do if you were with some one that has 2 daughters and cannot have any more due to a doc's orders to have a historectomy????and how would you except the children???as your own or be friend them or have nothing to do with them????what would you do if you were put in this type of situation???and you would fall inlove with the woman???what truely would you do/???? on;y serious apply please!!!!
2006-11-07 15:22:36 · 6 answers · asked by wendy p 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, your answer is going to depend on the kind of guy we are talking about here. If this man takes an interest to these two little girls and actually talks and listens to them as well as shows them affection, then he's worth keeping around. If he practically ignores them and lets you do all the dirty work, then ditch him. He's only in the relationship to see what he can get out of it.
I've seen alot of these cases as a social worker and truth be told, there are more and more men willing to take on the role of daddy. Which means he's accepted the package deal and embraces it. In this day and age, the divorce rate is at an all time high. It's very unlikely that you are going to find a guy willing to live up to this responsibility that isn't damaged or jaded in regards to other people's children. I met my husband, who was previously married and had a child that visited often, but they were just "visits". Then one day, when she was five, she showed up at our doorstep with a suitcase and I raised her ever since. We do have four boys together but when anyone ever asks...I always tell them I have five children, not to spare feelings...it's because I love my daughter as much as our sons. If you find someone who can do that, love your children as if they were their own, then you've got it made. It won't always be easy, but it does work!
2006-11-07 15:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are very personal questions, and will vary from man to man.
Your question" would you fall in love with the woman" is rather strange, for the children would have nothing to do with such a personal feeling as falling in love with someone. Now, a man may find two children too much baggage to take on, before he falls in love, but if he should fall in love first, the children will be of no consequence. that is, if he REALLY falls in love. I don't mean lust!
SERIOUSLY, if you want to know if the man has fallen in love with you, just keep your panties on, and your legs together. If he keeps coming back, then he likes you. If he goes away, then he was there only for the easy stuff.
2006-11-07 23:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regarding the kids I would except them. How they would except a new person in thier life could be the real callenge. Real men will fall in love with the right woman with kids. You have to be confident in your self and focus on the positive. Follow your gut.
2006-11-07 23:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I loved you I would wholeheartedly accept the children and treat them as my own, Sure there would be challanges but u need to work together.
2006-11-08 08:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one step and one that is bio but they are both mine and love them the same no mater what.
2006-11-08 02:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MICROWAVE THEM ON HIGH
2006-11-07 23:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋