Me and my boyfriend?

Question

I'm almost 15 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year. I really love him and I know he loves me. We're both ready to move on and have sex but we are both kinda scared that I will get pregnant b/c we can't get protection without our parents finding out. What should we do?

Ok I get the point that I'm to young and I need to wait but we're not going to wait. We both already decided and we just want to know what to do if I end up pregnant?

Answer 1

I also think you should wait for sex, but since i'm pretty sure you're not gonna listen to me, I'll suggest this: Go to a drugstore near your house and buy some contraceptives. Your parents will not be notified, and it's super dangerous to have sex without a condom or birth control of some sort. Also, remember that not all methods to prevent pregnancy are 100%, so the only way to be totally safe is to not have sex. Anyway, good luck and USE CONDOMS.

Answer 2

You have heard from others to wait until you're older. Now the one reason no one else seems to have mentioned about why to wait:

You are setting up your BF for a FELONY CHARGE.

At 14 (you said you're not quite 15 yet,but that's not important), any boy who has sex with you is guilty of the felony charge of Statutory Rape! Even if you give your consent to have sex, the law doesn't see it this way. And, DNA testing will determine your partner soon enough. What's worse, this will not be expunged from any criminal records (most states will have him tried as an adult for this).

So, there you have it. Pregnancy risk is high. Abortion, while usually looked upon as a tool to stop pregnancy, can kill you as well as the baby, and there is the stigmata of everyone in your neighborhood knowing that you couldn't wait. Bearing a baby to full term at your age can also be fatal to both.

Knowing all this, if you still can't wait, there is nothing anyone here can tell you any further. But, the advice here is, wait.

Answer 3

My sister was 15 when she started having sex. She is now 16 and has an 11 week old baby boy. This was a surprise to the whole family because we all thought she was still a virgin. She made a decision of her own to go ahead and start being sexually active and that is the consequence she now has to live with. I am 22 years old and just had my first child, a baby boy that is one day younger that my 16 year old sisters baby. I believe that there are other ways to show your boyfriend that you love him and show him how much he means to you in your life other than vaginal sex. First you should both discuss where you want to go in life and in what position you want to be. Such as finish school or have your own house before possibly starting a family. It is so easy to end up with a new life. So to show love toward each other buy gifts and give surprises, be there for eachother and grow together in positive ways, encourage better things. Marriage before losing virginity is ideal but not written in stone because for those that are ready for what can possibly happen from taking that next step is whats most impotant. Depending on whether or not you tell your mom or dad what you want to share with your man you should enquire with Planned Parenthood an agency that provides free services and free condoms and the such. Even a shopping center has condoms on the shelves so its out there to be used . Don't forget to have that important convorsation with your man first about what can happen from taking that next move. It happened to my sister and it was her first time! Just be careful in whatever you choose.

Answer 4

First, let me just say that I agree with every other person who has "answered"... you are too young...

But... I'm not an idiot and know you are going to do it regardless of what a bunch of people on the internet think... So...

Go to planned parenthood. They will be able to give you information about protection and often have "Samples" that you can get. You can also get information about getting on the pill through them without your parents finding out.

Again, I in no way think that this is a good idea, but hopefully you will use my information and at least make the smart decision to use protection!

If you don't know where a planned parenthood is then just go to their website and put in your zip code or state at the top of the page.

Answer 5

"We're both ready to move on and have sex " No you're not and YOU proved it yourself by saying "we can't get protection without our parents finding out." Don't have sex, it's just that simple. IF you go ahead and have sex YOU will get pregnant, HE will take off, and then YOU will have to take HIM to court for child support, HE will deny paternity then YOU will have to serve him with orders to have DNA testing. Then your parents will have to foot the bill for the abortion/birth, and the taxpayers will have to foot the bill for raising the child should you decide to keep it. Nope you're not ready because you haven't thought about a damn thing other than yourselves...you're still a couple of selfish brats.

Answer 6

Firstly my advice would be to go to Planned Parenthood and discuss your situation with a qualified healthcare provider who will eplain your options and their risks, and can give you access to contraceptive, sometimes even at a lower price or free.

However, assuming that you aren't going to do that I recommend:

Use condoms with lubrication (not spermicide)

AND Lea's sheild WITH an appropriate spermicide.

All of which are available without a prescription, which means you can get them without your parents finding out. Condoms are great, but sometimes they break, or slip, and nothing is 100%. However they protect against STDs and I know that you and your boyfriend are virgins and you trust him and he trusts you BUT better safe than sorry. Using multiple methods of birth control decreases your chances of getting pregnant.

However you and your boyfriend need a plan in case you do get pregnant. You should be on the same page about adoption/abortion/keeping the baby. You also need to know where you can get Plan B should you ummm "forget" to use contraception one time. However Plan B is only for accidents and is very hard on your body, it is NOT a method of birth control.

Answer 7

there are many ways to be protected.. Ä°t is just 1-2 dolars to have a single condom. If you use condom correct it protects %99.

But if you want more protection, You can also have a next morning pills in 72 hours after you had sex. You can also search about it in some women health web addresses...

Have a good time naughty girl...

But don't forget taht it is not a good behave. Think about it so much

Answer 8

I would suppose that there is no talking you or your boyfriend out of this. It really isn't the right thing to do. (I know this isn't cool, but there is such a thing as right and wrong, and sexual relations at 15 is simply WRONG.)

OK, lecture over.

But, if you are going to do it, you might want to see if you have a local Planned Parenthood office. They might be able to provide condoms and advice.

Know this, however: the only sure way not to get pregnant is abstinence.

(Don't you ever watch Seinfeld reruns? Sex ruins friendships!)

Answer 9

my friend had the same problem. but she gave it a little time and decided they both were'nt mature enough and ready for the responsibility. since you're still 15 you should consider waiting until you can get protection and are completely ready. i know alot of girls who've gotten pregnant because they only used condoms instead of birth control. but it's your're choice to make:)

Answer 10

ok not only does this hurt, you will never ever again get to have your virginity and on top of that you would need a condom because you dont only want to get pregant but you also dont want any diseases what a guy tells you isnt always what you think is the truth. Save it for someone better in your futre. you will regret it now if you give in.