Do you think it's a good idea for my almost 13 yr. old daughter to take a life lessons class?

Question

They are giving this class in 6, 7 and 8th grade to teach about abstinance, HIV/Aids, and puberty. My ex-husband thinks she shouldn't be taking it, but I think she should have had it last year. My step son is 12 and had it this year. My ex husband thinks they are going to show then pics. of naked people and thinks sex education is to teach them how to have sex. I totally think these classes are a great idea, and am planning to have the sex talk with her soon anyway. Do you think I should have the talk with her before her class or should I wait until she turns 13 next month like I planned?

David B I think he is too. I also think that they can never learn too much when it comes to abstinance, safe sex and HIV/Aids awareness.

Answer 1

Your ex seems to need to pull his head out of his a** (sorry if i offend). I agree with you that she should have had it LAST year. The classes I took when I was younger had boys and girls in separate rooms during the classes, talked about menstruation and what happens and the purpose of it, and taught us about HIV/AIDS and STD's. The only pictures we were shown were the kind of medical diagrams you would find at a doctors office or in an encyclopedia. The teacher Urged us to go home and talk to our parents about what we had learned. As to the question of when you should have your talk with her, I would suggest doing it before the class... and start the conversation by asking her to tell you what she knows about the topic. Once she answers, fill in any blanks, and then let the teacher solidify in your daughter's mind what you have told her. Not only will that help set the information into your daughter's head, it will also let your daughter learn that you are not giving her false information. Also be sure to let your daughter know that the door is always open for any questions she may have.

Answer 2

Well I am 13 And We Had Sex Ed In 5th Grade .. I Think Your Ex Is totally And Completely Wrong .. They Do Not Show Us "Nude" Pictures Or Anything .. They Told Us About Safe-Sex AKA Abstinence I Mean They Did Show Us Diagrams Of A Vagina Or Penis But I mean Thats Just Life Shes Gonna See It One Day .. But I Highly Reccomend Putting Her In that Class .. If i Hadnt Tooken That Class .. i Probably Would Have Gotten Pregnant Like Most Girls My Age Are now .. It Just Really shocks me that girls my age are having unprotected Sex I Mean their Body Isnt Even Developed So i Dont Have A Clue Why They Would Want to Have A Baby ..

Well I Hope My Answer Helped You .. If You Wanna Talk Email Me =] Have A Nice Night.

Answer 3

Your ex-husband is an idiot.

I think those classes aren't worth crap, because they only teach abstinence, and don't mention masturbation as a safe alternative to sex. (Since most people still see sex as something dirty, that's no real surprise.)

If you haven't talked to her about sex yet, you probably should tell her your own views on it before she takes the class. I'm planning on making my views on sex clear to my kids starting at a very young age, just giving them information that is appropriate to their age. I don't want sex to become something dirty or taboo for my children, and I want them to realize there are safe alternatives to sex.

When I was in middle school, we had one of those classes every year, combined with the home ec class (which was also worthless). We all sat there and watched the stupidest videos, and no one really paid attention, and a few still got pregnant by the end of the school year every year. They'd need to do something a little more interesting, explain it a little better, if they're going to teach a thing to these kids.

Answer 4

First off--BRAVO!! With kids learning about sex (and, in some extreme cases) practicing it at younger ages, this class should be viewed as a godsend for your daughter. Hopefully, she will learn that now is not the time for sex (at age 12/13), and that the consequences are real and dangerous. As for the talk you planned at 13--don't wait. Have it now ( or, as soon as you can, but now is best), explaining that sex is something that much older people than those age 13 should be enjoying. Your ex is confused about this. Either that, or is blind and unwilling to admit that his daughter is almost grown up. Keep her up-to-date on this important subject, and Good Luck!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I believe sex education is important and she should have had it last year as well. But the push for abstinence propaganda set forth by the current administration makes me nervous and I would ask to see the lesson plan before letting my kids hear any of it. There may be some deliberate misinformation about birth control, and STDs.

Answer 7

YES!!! PLEASE LET HER TAKE THE CLASS!!!

Kids that are teenagers, even young teenagers, need to learn more about sex, safe-sex, and the diseases/other possible consequences of having it.

You're a good parent for weighing all possibilities. An excellent parent for considering the opportunity. Let your ex know the importance of being aware. I'm sure your daughter wouldn't be promiscuous at this age...but there are guys who can be. You just want to make sure that she knows everything, so that she won't be left in a vulnerable position.

Talk with her before the class, just to let her know what it's oging to be about, and let her know that you are there for her with any questions she might have.

Answer 8

OK, they would never show 'naked' photos in class. Diagrams only of genitals, sometimes pictures of STD's to make sure they understand the seriousness of sexual protection and abstinance. I think this is so nessecary for all teens!! No parent would go that in depth with all the information given in those classes. MAKE HER GO!!!!>>>>>>>>>>>>and yes, i agree with answer #1..you're ex is very uneducated to believe what you have told us!!! oh, and i would have "THE TALK" once she ahs taken the class so that she can ask you more questions that she may not have had before. WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITY!!!!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Answer 9

These days, no matter what you think of your kids, they are around 99% likely to find out about sex earlier than you want them to. The class sounds like a good idea, because atleast she will learn everything the right way, and be able to make better decsions about her future. I'm sure you would rather her learn in a class than with a boy...

Answer 10

She should definitely take the class. And you should definitely talk with her about sex as well. Experts say sex starts to enter the picture as early as age 9, so it's possible she is already having it. Let your ex-husband know that. Sex education is so important!