2006-11-07 15:02:06 · 19 answers · asked by jan h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Need more details to answer this.
Did he lose his drive or did you?
Are you just having bad sex or almost no sex?
2006-11-08 05:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always get chosen best answer for giving advice like these...maybe I can help. The thing is that we have daily lives I dont think it has anything to do with the age difference because you obviously were these ages when you got married. It has more to do on how we forget to focus on what means to us the most. What I mean by this is you two probably have kids and if you dont then I'm sure you have jobs, bills, and stress. When all this comes to term you forget that at the end of the day you have that special someone you come home to! I would suggest a couple of days off from everything. Kids, jobs, bills, stress in general take some time for eachother you as a woman have the potental to make this man desire you in ways he never did. Wear somthing sexy do somthing SPONTANIOUS...go somewhere you've never been before or do somthing that reminds you why you fell inlove with eachother in the first place. I'm sure this will defanently re start the love you had for eachother! GOOD LUCK
2006-11-07 23:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gone to sht as in?
Are you talking to him about it? telling him what you do and don't like?
If it's just boring, spice it up! it's a hard mission but can be a lot of fun. Try new games, new toys, new outfits, positions. My favorite games are master and slave, and waiting as long as you can with as much foreplay as possible before you actually have sex.
If it's him just not in the mood, new studies are showing that men have WAY less testosterone then they used to, and as they get older it could decline so much that they will not want to have sex. A simple test from your doctor can tell if he is having a problem with this and then he will be treated with either weekly shots, or a cream he puts on.
2006-11-07 23:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by chickennosenshi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you try to do something different at least once a month or more? Maybe set up a date just for the 2 of you....have you talked to him? Do you ask each other about your fantasies? Do you dress for the ocasion.Lingerie..etc.etc ...Maybe the 2 of you need to get a membership at a gym " don't take wrong" You and him could be a very handsome couple I don't know but sometimes finding something that you both like and doing it together could be something that might help...I have been married for 5.5 years to a woman who is 1 year older than me we do have our problems as well I know when we talk about our fantasies it turns the heat up if you know what I mean....Good luck
2006-11-07 23:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by The gr8t alien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better try to experiment something that boost your sexual urges. Do not depend on him, I mean when your husband feeling not agreessively, try to seat in a driver's set to operate him. Give yourselves a time to bring back the younger times you did 6 years back. I mean go out date with him at sub urban resort. At least you refresh alone with him away from home to concentrate with his time in nobody can disturb you two. Be open to one another and talk with him how your relationship will stay more longer. Plan yourselve a another honeymoon out of town.
If nothing changed after you tried these suggestions, maybe you two need to see sex therapists and ask for counciling.
2006-11-08 02:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both don't have the energy. Go on a more healthy diet and or try new things. Role-Play, use toys, or have fantasies. Isn't it amazing what kids these days learn in high school.
2006-11-07 23:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 YEARS ! I hate to be the one to tell you this but your husband needs sex and a wife that cares about her body and what she looks like.If you don't know by now men and your husband included wants a woman to be proud of and proud to be seen with .
2006-11-07 23:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL WHAT HAS MADE THE GREAT SEX LIFE GONE FROM WOW TO ZZZZZ???
IS IT HIM, IS IT YOU, IS IT BOTH OF YOU??? WELL YOU NEED TO SEEK PROFESIONAL HELP OR SOME HELP.
IF IT IS YOU, WELL A LITTLE CHANGE WILL NOT HURT BUT MAKE IT WHOOOPIE EVEN BETTER.
IF IT IS HIM, TELL HIM WHAT HAS BEEN GOING ON AND WHEN YOU DO, WEAR SOMETHING FROM V.S. AND TALK, NOT YELL OR I TOLD YOU SO SAGA CRAP. AS THE OLDER ADULT, BE CAREFULL WHEN YOU GUYS TALK AND WHAT EVER IT IS, YOU CAN WORK IT OUT TOGETHER.
I WISH YOU WELL.
2006-11-07 23:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by ALEX ROCKS 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that as the elder! Keep strong communication skills at hand!.
Just MHO,
Hope this helps,
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2006-11-07 23:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes alot of work to keep things steamy and exciting!!
Talk to him about it and decide if you both want to work at making it better!! I've been there and you need to communicate what turns you on!! Sex toys do help too!!!!!!!!
2006-11-07 23:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋