it will consume me. i am a single grand mother of two one two month old and one three yr. old strugging with a business and mother sick, brother just lost his life and it all seems like to much tell. i wish i could throw up and it all come out on the monitor and i didnt have to explain. i have faith but it is very much tested right now. i want to shake this have to be here for my grandchildren
2006-11-07 14:41:00 · 14 answers · asked by feeling hopeless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First just STOP!! Stop and look around at everything. Stop and see if you have family member who can take some of the load off you until you get yourself together again. You really need to get away from it ALL. And I do mean ALL. Get someone to care for the children for a couple of days. Put the business on hold for a couple of days. Get a family member to watch after your mother for a few days. Hire a house keeper to clean you home while you go away for a few days..... YOU MUST LEAVE THE HOUSE for a few days ( you will see that this will go a long way to making you feel better.) Eat at every meal. Do not skip meals. Not eating tends to make the symtoms of depression much much worse. (I know, I have been there) Listen to lively music nothing depressing. Keep positive things around you. And get rid of the negative..... I mean it. It will really hinder you. Spend those few days relaxing don't worry too much about whats happening at home. And think only pleasing thoughts of your brother, best to remember him in a good and happy way, it will bring tears both mostly happy tears in remembrance of him. And pray, God will help you through this. It seems that nice people suffers worse in times of stress be good to yourself. Give yourself the time to gather yourself , your feelings, and your strength. Take care.
2006-11-07 14:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your healthy, working, and blessed with 2 healthy grand-kids then I'd say you'll be OK...We just get lost along the path, and turn to others to pick us up. But you need to turn to your family, raise the kids, console your brother and work dam hard at getting that business going. And know your not alone. Take it from somebody a lot younger then you, that has been through a he-- of a lot, in a life short lived. I get through and so will you. The trick is to be tough, and kick the world back in the a--. If you ever met me, you would think I'm this funny well rounded smart a- kid, but It's my cover and couldn't be further from the truth. Truth being: I'm real , I hurt and I've seen to much in this life-time, but I won't go down with out a fight. Stay strong, grandma !
2006-11-07 15:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say, just general advice for having passing by this state for 6 months.
Maybe taking some days or weeks out of context, to initiate relaxation or to think about what you can do.
Do sports or activites so your body can help your soul.
Many, many people share your distress at the same time. If you have any resource, use it to help you. Don't think you're alone with it.
And give you time. We consider depressing as a bad thing we have to clear of our life ASAP, maybe it's just a way for the soul to get out of the regular life. You have maybe some things to do before getting back to normal, don't ask too much to yourself at the beginning. Just rebecome yourself.
You have everything you need inside you, the most dificult is to let it come to the surface, to listen to it and to do whatever it takes, even if it's not what you learned long ago to be the supposed good thing to do...
2006-11-07 14:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Julie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should join a gym. You will meet new people and feel better about yourself. Most gyms have daycares on the premises if you can't find a sitter. Exercise will help your body and mind. Time heals everything...remember that. Think of your two children and what an amazing gift that is.
2006-11-07 15:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by lk7916 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it lasts more than two weeks get professional help.
Praying helps, one sees a different approach in live.
Take time for yourself, make it to be respected, I go to my balcony and smoke a cigarrette, tell my son, this is my time now.
Don't smoke if you aren't a smoker I was telling you my experience.
You said it all, you have faith and it's being tested!
Good luck.
2006-11-07 15:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most often a project for your self helps. Create something get involved in it, anything from a community project to a scrap book. Just create something that you can be proud that you did. Exercise creativity and just do it, with no wrong.
2006-11-07 14:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Timothy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, if you have faith then you already know what to do....Read your Bible it will take you out of depression...
The Lord is my rock, and my safe place, and the One who takes me out of trouble. My God is my rock, in whom I am safe. He is my safe-covering, my saving strength, and my strong tower....Psalm 18:2
All things you ask for in prayer, you will receive if you have faith... Matthew 21:22
Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you. I do not give peace to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled or afraid.... John 14:27
Just pray on it!!!
2006-11-07 15:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You might want to get on an anti depressent with all your going through. Also pray to God for strength. He can help.
2006-11-07 15:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Roger S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talkto you pastor. Join a support group(s). cut the dross from your life and concentrate on only those things that are important.
2006-11-07 15:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a therapist. You're goping through a lot and you most likely wont be able to deal with it all on your own without suffering.
a professional can help you get through it and come up with ways to help you cope.
2006-11-07 14:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by xalkalinex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋