What things did you do to explore your sexuality before coming to terms with it?

Question

Nothing X~Rated, Rude, or Cruel PLEASE as my patience with hatred has run out. THANK YOU!!

All help would be appreciated. I am wondering what helped you realize your feelings and how you went about discovering them before actually getting involved with someone. THANK YOU!!

Answer 1

Talking it over with close friends. Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend. I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am. It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.

Answer 2

Growing up on a farm, Chaos, I didn't have to wonder what went on pertaining to sex. A LONG time before puberty, I knew what it was all about and when puberty came along, it just fit in with life. I didn't have to do anything out of the ordinary to realize my feelings. Back then there was almost NO diseases to contend with and even then the Young girls didn't have them. Sex was something that a young man had to actually "hunt" for since only around 20% of the young girls put out. Now the quest is not nearly as hard with around 80% of the young girls putting out.

Anyway, all that came naturally and still......I waited around 4 years, after puberty, before I ventured out "into" the world. Good luck. Pops

Answer 3

What helped me realise my feelings was that I had struggled for them for a decade and when I met my now girlfriend through a friend I just knew that I had to have her.

At the time I was with a guy - I was still in denial but I knew what i felt in that relationship was not what I wanted to feel. I guess I discovered them by exploring my feelings towards wemon, reading up about things and going out with guys that made me realise.

I hadn't really done anything before I asked my girlfriend - she was my majoy discovery moment so to put it.

Answer 4

I really didn't need any help. I knew the moment I saw her that I wanted to be around her all the time. I thought about kissing her long before I actually did it. We had a connection immediately, it was magnetic. After I was completely crazy about her, I started analyzing what was going on. I looked back at my whole life and saw many signs that I was a lesbian. I never thought about it before that. So I guess you could say I did things backwards, I had no dress rehearsal - I found my soulmate and then thought about it. It wasn't a choice for me.

Answer 5

i had been obsessed with men since i was small. i used to clip pictures from nagazines of jim palmer (the baseball player) in his jockey ads, plus george michael and bob paris (bodybuilder) (both later came out---early gaydar!) then i discovered alyson publishing and ordered a ton of books at around 15.......by the time i hit 18 i was out loud and proud good luck!!!!

Answer 6

I thought about it a lot. I prayed that I would not be gay, because I thought it was so wrong. I was dating a girl, and prayed that God would make me want to marry her. It didn't work. So, I guess God didn't want me to be a heterosexual.

I then met a nice guy when I was getting off the city bus one day. He asked for my phone number. I gave it to him. He called me. We went out to eat. He was my first boyfriend, for five years, during high school and college.

Answer 7

Well with me - there was nothing to explore. from an early age I never got along with girls as people. And there were no exceptions. Plus - I never noticed any females cruising me, or giving me the eye - or put moves on me, or show the slightest interest in me as a man. they gave off negative vibes & showed me clearly that I was not what they wanted.

On the other hand, some (not all ) guys DID check me out & give me strong signals of interest -which made me feel good - this uplifted my ego. So when I realized that women didn't like me - never looked at me & never put the moves on me - then I turned away from them entirely & ignored them in return. I couldn't get vaginas - so I went after guys & set my mind to it dead serious. And it paid off.

In my Catholic all-boys high school I befriended a blonde italian guy named Karl - I thought he was cute to look at & after high school one day I called him up and he said let's get stoned on pot & other goodies. I said "fine" & we went to a private famous cemetery to hang out - A hot July afternoon - we went in his car. We smoked pot & got blasted & then I begged him to do me. he asked if I really wanted this & why? but I begged & pleaded for him to take my virginity - & I undressed on the grass & he lubed me up and gave it to me as if I were a girl. It hurt like hell but I took it like a man & I SUBMITTED to his young manhood. he finished inside me & I was sore & in pain - but not sorry - I lost my virginity but not like most guys lose theirs.

This was how it all happened for me and the rest is history. I couldn't get girls so I enjoyed what I could get with guys.

And this is not porn, or XXX or cruel - it's just the truth of the matter. That's exactly how I came to terms & realized which way to go. I hope this answers your query.

With every good wish for your happiness now & always.

Answer 8

Where to begin. Bi-sexuality and deciding which way I wanted to lean most to.
Experance and age. took longer to get with women rather than just myself.

Answer 9

LOL...I couldn't face the fact...I had the complete breakdown and somehow recovered from that and went on to meet other gay people...it was a major enlightenment to me to know that I wasn't the only one.

Answer 10

get with some one and explore with them now if you mean if u want to get with a girl and arent sure if ur a lesbian or bi or whatever look and if words cant discribe her and you think shes cute then ur gay