i dont know what i am, i dont feel liek i have a opinion on stuff or i sdont knwo the answers. I dont know my sexuality liek i used to. I used to feel like being gay or doin anythign gay is completley wrong. I still like girls and get aroused by them. But i think to myself soemtimes like what if im gay or bi. LIek i know girls are hot but soem guys arent bad lookin either and i alwasy ask myself qquestion adn thnik of stuff to try and find answers to myself. LIke i ask am i gay or bi or straight or woudl i do this or that. LIke sometiems im liek im straight and sex with guys is not attractive but soemtimes i just say its like w/e. My mind is soo confused right now, i eman i dont want to be gay or bi, i feel i wont be as happy. Idk whast goin on do u think thisa phase in my life that will pass. Im only sixteen and i feel that things will never go right for me, maybe its just natural. Any advice is appreciated.
2006-11-07 14:28:35 · 7 answers · asked by max b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is perfectly natural for a person your age to have these feelings. You are a normal, healthy person.
2006-11-07 14:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't complain or fret. Any man with eyes to see with & a brain to think with - has to notice that young guys are
gorgeous & they look good & they smell good, & it's nice to be around guys - even if no sex happens. if you didn't notice that - then you're not human.
Guys understand each other without the nonsense & games girls play with people. Guys are easier to be friends with & enjoy in every way. Being gay is not just about sex, it's about love & affection, caring & sharing & commitment to each other.
You might not want to be gay or bi - but it's not your call. Just go with the flow & accept what happens. If you really are straight - then you go that way from your own free will. In time, your confusion will straighten itself out & things will get clearer for you.
Do not despair or complain. God loves you infinitely as His child, and that's what matters. Jesus Christ care about you. Nothing else matters - not boys, not girls. Only Jesus Christ matters.
think about that !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-07 22:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a typical teenager, and a very brave one for expressing these feelings. There is not a person alive who has not gone though what you are going through, but weather or not they will admit it is a different story. Hang in there, buddy. These feelings will become clear in time and you will sort yourself out. Just remember, right now they are only feelings and they do not control you. Do not act on feelings unless you have some logic to back them up. You will be OK in the end. Find some hobbies or something you like to do to occupy your time, and talk to people who care about you, even the guidance councillor at School. Just make sure no matter what in the end you do what is right for you and no one else.
Take care.
2006-11-07 22:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why label yourself? If you're gay, you are gay. You can't change that so there is nothing to be gained by fretting about it or hoping that you aren't. If you have actually had multiple encounters with the same sex, it's probably not a phase and you are just in denial, or so afraid of the negative reaction you are trying to persuade yourself that you're not.
2006-11-07 22:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by aint_no_stoppin_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be bicurious, which merely describes a curiosity rather than a sexual orientation. You probably need to talk to a counsellor to help sort your feelings, and more importantly - tackle your negative thoughts about the possibility of being gay. Tackling internalised homophobia won't make you gay if you're not gay.
2006-11-08 03:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY THING YOU ARE FEELING IS NORMAL!!!!! I REMEMBER BEING 16 AND NOT WANTING TO BE GAY!!!! IN MANY WAYS BEING GAY IS A CHALLENGE!!!!!!! YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOOK FOR HELP IN DIFFERENT PLACES! IT IS A TRICKY ONE TO FIND THE HELP OR A PERSON THAT CAN GIVE YOU GOOD ADVICE!!! YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE OUTED AND DISCRIMINATED ON AS A RESULT!!! 16 IS A DIFFICULT AGE IN SO MANY WAYS AND THIS SORT OF THING THROWN ON TOP OF IT ALL MAKES 16 EVEN MORE DIFFICULT!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU WILL FIGURE IT ALL OUT MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PERHAPS YOU CAN GO ON LINE AND LOOK FOR TEEN DISCUSSION GROUPS! I PROMISE GAY OR STR8 WHAT EVER YOU ARE-YOU WILL BE JUST FINE!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-07 22:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by james f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since the last 4 questions have been virtually identical to this one...i'd say that you have some issues with your sexuality...If you are gay you will be happy and life will go on...I don't know if you are gay or not...but maybe you should talk to a councillor or someone...if you are gay--hey it's not all that bad.
2006-11-07 22:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋