after my wedding,i had gone thru so many problems. my huasband dont spend time with me.we never been anyware for past two years.he always wanted to spend time with his mother and sisters. i feel very lonely. i dont even know,how to talk to him about my feeling.but love him a lot.
2006-11-07 14:19:57 · 7 answers · asked by catwomen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well maybe you have to ask yourself,WHAT CAN WE DO TO FIX THIS, First how about sitting down with your husband and talking about the reasons things are like they are...
If he is spending so much time with his folks then ,sadly something is lacking on the homefront.
We do not know what it is, only the both of you can sort this out, reading between the lines it is quite obvious that things can and will get worse unless you both sit and talk and try to resolve issues that have come between you, Good Luck
2006-11-07 14:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Whoops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your marriage to work, then he needs to know your feelings. Try writing him a letter.. This way he doesn't feel that he is being attacked and it gives him a chance to hear (read) what you have to say. This also gives him a chance to think about it. Watch your wording. Don't use a lot of "You"... This could make him feel blame and even though it may be true, you want results. Tell him about your feelings and be honest. At this point what do you have to lose? Also remind him that you love him.. This is more of a psycological approach, but people tend to respond more this way, at least in my experience they do. My husband and I keep a journal together and we write in it when one gets upset with the other one. I can't tell you how much its helped.
Just a side note: make sure he really is spending time with his mother and sisters. If he's lying, well you know what to think then.
Good Luck!
2006-11-07 22:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the bum. We love you! I'm smooching my computer screen right now so you'll feel better. There. Now you need to out and get involved in activities----volunteer at the old folks home, work at the food bank, anything positive. You might be surprised at what happens.
2006-11-07 22:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always seem to change after marriage...at least for all of my friends that is true. Have you thought of marital counselling? It 'will hopefully give you both tools to communicate.
2006-11-07 22:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor woman. Go and get yourself educated and then you'll have something to talk about. Have you thought that maybe he's not worth the worry?
2006-11-07 22:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by ideflitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to speak up and spend more time with your husband. he is your hubby he married you so it shouldnt be hard to talk to your best friend...become involved in whatever he is doing...and start spending time with his mum and sisters aswell....if you dont sort this out you will one day wake up next to a man you used to know......
2006-11-07 22:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand why two people get married if they can't even communicate with each other. TELL him how you feel or you will never resolve anything. You deserve to be happy don't you?
2006-11-07 22:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋