my boyfriend forgets...how big he is down there, and in body size. he's not fat, he's just tall and big and im way smaller than he is. After sex, i really hurt, because sometimes he's a little rough and doesn't realize it. how can i tell him without making him feel bad?
2006-11-07 14:12:41 · 4 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Maybe he sees you in pain and is turned on by it.
Have a good talk with him that its really hurting and that your painful expression during intercourse isn't made up.
If not try more lubrication and more foreplay to relax your vagina muscles. Or get him to insert himself really slowly.
2006-11-07 19:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flattery will get you anything! Try a little "Honey, you are sooo BIG down there that I can barely walk for days!" Keep it upbeat. Concentrating on the size of his manhood will stroke his ego and make him want to do anything he can to please you.
Have you tried positions where you are on top? I find the most pain from sex with especially well hung partners comes from doggie style and other positions where you can go super fast. Take the initiative - get on top! If you are new to this position, don't worry about going super fast - your boyfriend sounds like he may be a little inexperienced. Nothing wrong with that, but he may think that fast, hard and rough will get the both of you off. Try some sensual lovemaking. Get on top and lead the way. Concentrate on what makes *you* feel good in that position and not only will it turn him on incredibly, but it will cue him in to different styles of sex.
I hope this helps!
2006-11-07 22:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by fearlabave 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending how long you have been together it shouldn't really matter how you tell him, just tell him the truth, Its better than being in pain all the time. If you havn't been together just tell him to take it easy for a while untill your body is use to him then it might not be so bad after a while.
2006-11-07 22:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little extra lubrication would help. I have the same problem, if that's what you want to call it. If that doesn't help, tell him to take a chill pill or you will take a cucumber and stick it you know where and see how he likes it. Hopefully he won't.
2006-11-07 22:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋