Why am I so mad at my friend that set goals but don't do anything about them?

Question

I am a male virgo. I recently got into an argument with my friend about a quote he put up. I told him that he needs to take it off his yahoo messenger status because it doesn't suit him. It stated impossible is nothing and a man limits himself to his on perception or something" I think i got it wrong but i was smart enough to know it has something to with accoomplishing goals. I remember telling about eating right and dieting becaue gained weight and to help him i suggest him diet with me. He tells me that its to takes to much time and he is busy. I got mad at that internally but I told him. I knew he wasn't gonna do it anyway because he has a history of setting goals but not really having anything to show for it. While I am doing everything I set my heart out to do. Why am I so angry? I even asked him what has he accomplished since I left. He didnt want to. I lived with him this summer and my standards are way higher than his. I am friendly I swear!. It just urks the hell out of me

Answer 1

Friendships are just like relationships. Your both two differnt individual people, with different personality, opinions, goals, and outlooks on life. If he is a true friend that you don't want to loose you just need to sort through your differences and make the best of things. Just continue to be his friend and mentor him on setting, creating, and following though with his goals. Try digging deeper into the problem maybe he doesn't have much self esteem or think he can accomplish anything in life, or maybe he hasn't matured as much as you have.

I take it he's a friend worth keeping since your setting out to try and get help on what to do in order to keep your friendship going and strong, but you can't change people or the person he is. You as a friend can only help him by giving him a little "push" so he can make the change on his own because he has to want to make that happen. And who knows by him seeing you going on with your life being successful, he'll get what you were saying and make a change a lot quicker and without a fuss