Gay marriage, not a good idea?

Question

Ok I am not saying its a BAD thing, I'm saying that at this point America isn't ready for same sex couples. I think that a lot of people rely too much on the bible (don't get me wrong because I am Christian.) I'm just saying I rather there not be gay marriage RIGHT NOW than some biggot trying to kill all gay couples or harassing them for being married. I can see that happening. What do you think? Express your opinions please.

Answer 1

well it happened here in canada without the moral fabric of the universe being torn to shreds...

Answer 2

I am going to give a detailed answer that many will not like, so I ask that the answer be read in its entirety before a knee jerk reaction.

At this point in time, I do not think gay marriage is a good idea because the harder you push against your opponents the harder they will push back. Since the majority of people in the United States are not gay, they do not know the rights that are inherent with marriage that gay couples are denied. If the rights that gay people are denied were taken on a case-by-case basis (such as hospital visitation, inheritance tax burdens, joint income tax filings) until they were gradually made equal there would eventually be the case to be made that, since the rights were now equal, that the name marriage should be applied equally. If anti-gay people were shown that gay people suffer under certain laws, they would be more likely to be less hostile towards gays.
Until the Lawrence v. Texas Supreme Court decision of 2003 it was illegal for gay people to have sex in certain states, and to jump 3 years later and expect that there will be full equality plays into the hands of the anti-gay zealots saying that gay people have an agenda. In all honesty, by not highlighting the discrepancies of laws that apply differently between gays and straights and concentrating on the word marriage instead of the rights conferred with that benefit, gay people will have to wait longer to realize the same benefits that straight people already enjoy due to the emphasis on the word marriage instead of the emphasis on the difference of legal protections.

Answer 3

People do rely on the bible, but it isn't getting better. Something has to be done from the side of tolerance or else intolerance will only seep deeper and deeper into the core of our society.

People tried to do that when the schools were integrated, those children and their families suffered for their rights and in the end won a great victory in the name of tolerance. The same must be done in this case, only through fighting for our rights and overcoming difficulties will we be able to accomplish anything. The war for tolerance never ends, it just takes different forms along with the bigotry of the era.

Again I also state that marriage is not a uniquely Abarahamic concept. It has existed in different forms throughout history in all cultures, many of these did not focus on gender. In a country that is founded on the beliefs of freedom, as in freedom of or from religion, I see no reason why marriage should be interpreted through a uniquely Christian perspective.

Answer 4

1st of all, we're already harassed! 2nd, who on earth would it hurt, now really? without using religious reasoning (i.e. excuses) or the lame "it's not natural" or "it's gross"....can ANYONE give any legitimate reasons why it would be wrong? if 2 consenting, unrelated adults love each other and are committed to each other, it shouldn't matter what their gender, race, religion or culture is. considering the divorce rate, the abuse the infidelity, and the blase' attitude some straight people have towards marriage (like Britney Spears' drunken Vegas marriage..and, oh! big surprise! now she's divorcing K-Fed!), how could we possibly do any worse? It's happened in Canada and in a lot of other countries..and the world hasn't come to an end!
you have a right to your opinion, but of course, so do we!
it's seems to me that to the ultra right-wing conservatives, that we are "all created equal" as long as we are white, straight, Christian, married and procreating. so much for the melting pot of the United States? I know we have a long way to go, but we have to keep up the fight! no one religion, race, culture, sexual orientation, etc. is better than another....we should all have equal opportunities and rights!

Answer 5

Honey, there are already biggots trying to kill or to harrass gay couples. What we need isn't "not right now" but "right now". People are indeed reading their Bibles, but they're reading Paul and the Old Testement rather than the words of Jesus. Jesus said *nothing* about gay folk. He said a great deal about loving one's neighbor. I'd much rather see people respecting and loving thier neighbors. I have a 26 year relationship with a wonderful woman and I still can't get health benefits on her insurance. Now what's wrong with being in love? Blessings

Answer 6

Society is not likely to embrace gay marriage if there's no existing impetus to do so. "Waiting" for society to be "ready" to deal with it would mean it will never happen.
People change their minds when they know real people IN that situation. Without a gay male couple living across the road from my Mom for ten years, setting an example by just living their everyday lives, she probably wouldn't have bothered spending much time thinking about gay rights or gay marriage or the public treatment of gays.... their very existence made my own coming out to her much easier....she had a pre-existing point of reference that beig gay didn't have to mean that I would have some bizzarre kind of life and lifestyle she could never understand.
Changed attitudes come AFTER people are forced to reconcile with the people around them, not before. It's the very impetus of societal opinion shift!

Answer 7

I think gay marriage should be legal.

Gay people have dealt with harassment for years; those who feel getting married is worth any extra bigotry they will suffer will do so.

Marriage is a societal contract. Civil rights should have nothing to do with the religious texts of any faith.

I'm married to a man, and I can't imagine how my life would be if the roles were reversed, and I were unable to marry my beloved. In fact, the strongest, most admirable "marriage" I have ever had the good fortune to witness was between two beautiful women I knew -- they've been together over 25 years and the love and respect they show one another should be an inspiration to anyone.

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Answer 8

America has no choice, we are everywhere and marriage or not, we r not going anywhere. As far as the harrassment and hate crimes, that happens now. So what would b the difference? How bout this. How bout the government treat hate crimes and bigotry with punishment rather than just allowing it to happen? We shouldnt be denied the same rights as all other americans simply out of fear. That is just rediculous.

Answer 9

I think Gays should have the right to marry. Who is anyone to stand in the way of two people sharing their lives in a marriage? It just irritates me when people think that marriage is exclusively for a man and a woman. I am a heterosexual female republican over 50 and I believe the civil right of gays are being violated with all this nonsense about banning gay marriage. Who cares what your neighbor does anyway? It won't effect my life one way or another if my neighbors are a gay married couple. They use the excuse that saying marriage is wrong and it should be a civil union...I say if you can "marry flavors" in a salad dressing you can "marry" gay people.

Answer 10

The quicker it becomes legalized, the quicker it will become accepted, look at the black rights civil movement. They still aren't completely accepted and are killed/discriminated against for their skin color, gay marriage will never become completely accpeted, but more people are becoming tolerant of it, and anyone against it will be shunned and thought of as a monster. Just like we think the KKK are a bunch of close minded idiots, I can totally see this being said in a few years by a student in class, can't you? "What? Gay marriage used to be illegal? In America? That's stupid my friends parents are gay and he's fine!"

Answer 11

I agree with you, also as a gay man myself and have seen what the gay life is like I don't think gay men are ready for marriage,. Marriage is a life long commitment and there is allot of cheating in the gay life