My wife's Bi Sexual What do i do?

Question

My wife states she loves and she can see herself living the rest of her life with me. Sounds good, whats the problem. Wellwhen she was 19 she had an encounter with another female then about a year ago she tells me she'd had another. We've been together for 13 years and married for the last 3.

She told me the other night she was Bi Sexual wantedanother woman so i said ok i'll try help thinking it could help improve our relationship. But then she tells me she's actually allready met someone and has been seeing her for about 2 weeks.

She doesn't want me to join in her fun it's just something for her. I Let the previous times go as one offs and quite erotic actually, everyman fantasy sex was great afterwards. but now it is something new a relationship with someone else. feelings and emotions are envolved, she says it won't come between us because she loves me, but she's going into unknown teritory , how can she say she will feel more or less for me in a month. What shall I Do? HELP

Answer 1

It will come between you and it already has. Its good that she is being upfront but you need to tell her that its actually not ok with you and for those exact reasons that you stated, emotions and feelings become involved. From my perspective, its so hard to seperate sex from feelings and emotion and if she is married to you she cannot emotionally invest in another relationship, whether thats with another man or another woman.......unless you want to get divorced?
You need to be more honest with your feelings to her about this and let her know that you are uncomfortable with it.

Answer 2

You need to figure out if you can handle it she is attracted to both men and woman. The thought you should be worried about is will I ever really be enough for my wife. She has told you this maybe to get a secret off her back but really she may be telling you this to see if it makes you run away. I think most bi-sexual people who get married end up splitting because there is a strong and strange pull to be with both sexes and they are never truly satisfied with the one option. She has chosen you but personally if you have no kids already play it safe and always use protection you do not want kids in a rocky situation like this. If you are okay with it and she has told you she is happy with you then make it work until the day comes where she may want that change. Or if it is too much get a divorce. God Bless and Best Wishes. Personally I do not believe in bi-sexualism your either homo-sexual or straight.

Answer 3

I hate that you are finding this out now but you have to realize that she is CHEATING on you. Just because its not w/another man doesnt mean she isnt cheating she is. And I dont think your going to be able to change her ways either. As hard as it is you need to ha
ve a serios talk w/ her and give her an altimatum or your leaving her cheating butt. If she is having deep feelings for this other woman then why does she have you she doesnt deserve you. You go find a trusting woman and make sure that she has no skeletons in the closet.

Answer 4

it's what you do with it. I am having an affair with another man, my husband knows and while he's not thrilled with the idea he is arranging dates for me. He says if this is what i need to grow then who is he to stand in my way. He says the only way out of this marriage is if he dies, not because he loves me because he made a commitment he intends to stick to. You can't know how she will feel about you in a week or a month, it's a chance you are either willing to take or not.

Answer 5

Well, it doesn't matter that it's with a woman, she's cheating on you. The question is, do you want to seperate or get divorced, because adultery is always a big issue. It all depends on what you really want to do. If you not comfortable and you've told her then I would say you both need to talk to a marriage counselor to see if your marriage can be saved.

Answer 6

Start getting mentally prepared to divorce her. She is only bi-sexual for a short time. In reality, she is slowly coming out-of-the-closet, and deciding whether she really wants to be gay or not. She will discover that she cannot have monogamous relationships with two people. Once her "significant other" forces her to decide between the two of you, she will dissolve your marriage. This happened to me too, and many others in my support group. Be content in the realization that it wasn't your fault, and move on.

Answer 7

The real question is how do you feel that she has cheated on you. In some ways it's irrelevant that it's with another woman. You need to answer this before you proceed. Perhaps you two should go to marriage counselling. You both need to decide if you intend to stay in this marriage and if so, how to deal with her affairs.

Answer 8

put your foot down. if she were dating another man, i'm sure you would have a problem with it. its just because of the male fantasy thing where you want to join in. well thats a bunch of crap. she's cheating on you and thats the end of the story. you are married and that is not allowed. i dont care if she's bisexual or monosexual. :) it doesnt give her the right to cheat on you phyically and emotionally.

tell her to look at lesbian porno to get her bisexual fill for the day.

Answer 9

No matter the gender, she's still cheating on you. And either way, it's about how comfortable YOU ARE with the situation. I personally don't think it's fair to you if you're don't like what's going on.

Answer 10

if you dont get to at least be present,(you can sit quietly and watch) then it can be a problem. With you being present at least you know everything that went on then you arent getting the story second handed. if she isnt willing to do that then tell her to have a nice life and move on