my vaccum cleaner broke and my floor has dog hair/ thru an error that no one can seem to fix, my child support was canceled/the clerk made a mistake and misfiled my case causing me to lose hundreds of dollars of medical benifits/social security wont forward my papers to the main office to change my number/the state dept that is working on my assult case by a dr have not even asked for my medical records..and this has been since june/i have no family and the only friend i have is my psychologist..my credit is so horrible i cant even get a checking account from a divorce..and this is just the past 6 weeks...rest of my life is the same....i hurt so much and have no where to turn anymore...and no religion remarks, major problems there also...im tired of fighting to just eat and stay alive..yes i volunteer but i am a quite person so am not with the "in" group...my doctor tried to find support groups without success..how would you keep going?
2006-11-07 13:40:27 · 9 answers · asked by duchess727272 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
oh..and i just tried to put this in mental health and it wouldnt go..and two of my neighbors have decided to completely ignore me and they have pal up
2006-11-07 13:41:55 · update #1
Okay, take a deep breath and take everything one at a time. Just keep a positive attitude and go out there and make some friends, even if you are more shy its easy make friends with one of your kids parents and get all the help you can get. I dont know alot about the legal system but i know that it takes time put your mind away from that and focus on the things that matter. I hope the best for you all i can say is keep a chin up and there are people out there willing to help dont keep this all in it is too much of a burden!!!!
2006-11-07 14:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, we all go through tough times not being rude to you or saying that your not having a rough but Ive had a hell of a lot worse, and you will be just fine.The way I handled things was one day at a time one step at a time, get the ball rolling,keep pestering those who misplaced your case, keep hassling SS to forward your papers be nice and persistent , you do have rights, use the Internet to find out what they are and how to go about it, I'm not familiar with social security in America(i assume that's where you are)You have yourself, so be strong and stick up for yourself when you have no one else to help you. Look at all the things you do have and appreciate them, however small they are. Ask a neighbour if you can borrow their vac *** , make them a cake and go over and ask, they can only say no,so ask the next neighbour.USe your time to help yourself instead of feeling sorry for yourself, and always keep smiling cause you never know who may be admiring you from afar . All the best to you !:)
2006-11-07 21:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things get absolutely too much to handle, that you feel like there is no where to go or turn, pray to God, and ASK God for help! I am not one of those religious fanatics, but there has been times in my life, when I was at the end of my rope, and didn't have any more answers. I just said, God, I'm giving you my problems, and you handle them! You know what? God never let me down yet! You must have faith, even when things seem totally impossible, and you feel you've hit a dead end in everything you do, or every way you turn, you cant give up, you must keep trying even though it may not seem like your getting anywhere, keep trying, and you really must give it up to God, I usually got an answer within 48 hours when Ive done that. Hope things get better, and if you need help, keep searching, there is always someone out there that cares enough to give advice, or help!
2006-11-07 23:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I kinda feel your pain. I'm pretty much looking for an answer, too. My problem is not the same as your problem, but I have alot of stress, too. I know you don't want any religious answers, but the only thing that has kept me going is prayer. I am really pleasant person, most of the time. But lately, I'm having mood swings. I'm mean, I'm slacking on my work, then I'm depressed and trying to save the world (my company). I've had a lot of lows and lower lows. And I was wondering, when do you say something? When do you ask someone for help? I hate asking people for help and certainly don't want to seem mentally unstable or anything. Just hold on. PRAY! And one thing I know for sure. You absolutely ask for help before you do something detrimental to yourself or someone else. That could be anything from drinking to suicide. And remember that God never gives us more than we can handle. So as hard as it is, just know that you're strong enough. Take care of yourself.
2006-11-07 21:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I hate to tell you this but it could be alot worse just be thankful for what you do have I always think about how bad off other people are and that makes me be grateful for the stuff I'm going through nd I have been through alot in my life time and I am only 24 I have lost two children 1at birth and the other at 8 months and have had 3 c-sections in 4 years my teeth are horrible and I'm trying to go to college with 3 kids I have to move out of my house in 11 days and haven't found a place yet and haven't got sleep in 3 days so trust me I feel for you just take it one mental breakdown at a time you will make it through it just think tomorrow is another day and it could be the day everything turns around so I wish you luck just have hope it wouldn't happen if it's not supposed to it just makes you a stronger person
2006-11-07 22:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone on this site could write a paragraph about what is bad in their life. What you probably need to do is keep as good of a record of the things that go right, and the things that are good in your life. You seem to have documented even the smallest thing that went wrong, so now start doing the same for even the smallest thing that goes right. You will usualy find that there are more good things than bad in your life. Always be thankful for what you have, not bitter about what you don't have.
2006-11-07 22:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by tim b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question is this on the soap. or are you for real really .I can't even begin to imagine, what to respond.If your on the up-n-up time for a cool change get out of the negative and shift gears, thats no way to what you might call living that is a storyline for the afternoon soaps.
2006-11-08 03:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by lytesdelite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, :'(
jeez
um, listen to music
that's what i do
you know what, ive found that if you keep going things will eventually get better
to tell you the truth im going through a really bad time myself
so i dont really know what to do, but i will keep on trying
2006-11-07 21:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Wathup42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say ...It's to much...
2006-11-07 21:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by drmushroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋