We been married for 5 years. I never knew he watched porn on net. He looked up allsorts of things even gays. i found it on history one day and then a few more times. He denied it at first but now admits it as ok thing to do. I feel betrayed and dont wont to have sex with him ever again but i am really afraid of being alone. What to do?
2006-11-07 13:38:11 · 7 answers · asked by Melbel of the 7 seas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
loosen up honey...
He's just doin what thousands of guys do.
It's just fantasy...
Try it yerself.......you may get a shock when you like it!!!
2006-11-07 23:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some women this is a hard thing to deal with, but it usually stems from the women's lack of self esteem. It makes you feel like he doesn't like the way you look, so he is looking some where else. THAT IS NOT TRUE!!! It is just a normal guy thing, the gay thing may have been just a pop up or a wrong site. He may also be looking for ways to satisfy you better or spice up the love life. As long as he is not hooked on it and needs to see it every day, I would not worry, but what you need to do is work on your self esteem some, he married you and knows that he can never have a porn star and he probably doesn't even think of wanting any one else. You need to do something for yourself, be it a new hair style, a manicure, a new piece of lingerie, something to make you feel sexy. So no worries Hun, it is a normal thing for guys to do.
2006-11-07 21:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem when he prefers this over you.
If you are not having sex anymore....he seems not to be interested.....then he does have a problem. However if watching porn only makes him more interested in you then the only problem you should have is that he may not have been honest with you about it.
You clearly find him looking at other women offensive. Talk this through with him. Find out how important this is to him. If you insist that he quit he may not be able to and will try not to get caught again. Looking at porn has no bearing on how much he loves you. That is completely separate.
Try to work it out with communication. Your only chance.
2006-11-07 21:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to downloads .com , get a keylogger. it will tell you every where he go"es on the net. you can check his email and every thing. BE INFORMED. Kowing is always best. Its a bad thing not to trust someone you live with, You have your reasons for staying same as me, But find out what your dealing with. Its safe and undetectable. Be sure you want to know before you do this. Lost of luck
2006-11-07 22:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by jan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a couple of male porn magazines and casually but "accidentally" leave them lying around the house. Oops! Did I leave that there? See how responds.
Meanwhile, stay out of his computer. If his web fun time is not interfering with your life in any way, leave him alone.
Then, greet him at the door one day in nothing but lipstick so he lusts after you and not web porn.
2006-11-07 21:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all guys look at porn on the net. Dont worry about it.The gay thing thoug, umm, oh, i dont know about that.
2006-11-07 21:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by 1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is ex tyhe only reason u married
2006-11-07 21:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋