MY husband and i have been together for eight years. we married three years ago. we went to iraq but on his leave he came home and we used drugs together like we always have. well i took it over board and then he wanted a divorce. he was the first to introduce me to drugs. now i am here facing all of this on my own i have felony charges and that is my fault. but the one person i love the most has just up and walked out on me. does he love or is he just mad. i have never turned my back on him in eight years of his destruction of his life why would he walk out on me.
2006-11-07 13:32:39 · 10 answers · asked by thumperprice26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because drugs make the brain to be confuse. Drugs induce you you see a distorted reality of things. Drugs make the brain to think in other way that is cheating you. I dont think your husband love you because he induce you to drugs and he knew the consequences. Divorce him, he dont love you. Try to help him to get out fo drugs. Drugs make the people see everything in a different way. Once you get uot of drugs, you'll see the reality AS IS, not distorted.
2006-11-07 13:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by El guapo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs short circuits the brain, so do not wonder why this is all happening. Never wish or even hope that he will be coming back. Perhaps he will. Perhaps he will not. But the point is you can never anticipate the decisions of a drug dependent person.
Perhaps the best thing you could do is figure out your situation. Examine what is left with you in terms of financial, material, emotional, and professional resources. Then figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life. After that, discard all the things and activities that might hamper you in the attainment of your goal.
You may have to take on a lot more sacrifices than what you are going on through now. But you have to be strong coz it is your life and future that is at stake.
2006-11-07 19:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're marriage is in serious trouble, you've been arrested and you admit to going overboard with the drugs...you have an addiction.
1. Get help in dealing with your addiction. You will be able to better sort things out when you've sobered-up and can think with a clear head.
2. Don't beg him to come back. He needs to deal with his own issues.
3. The loneliness is gutt-wrenching (speaking from experience). That's why you should not go through this alone. Loneliness sometimes causes us to seek companionship in all the wrong places.
4. I don't think he's gone for good. What you can do is get yourself right and set an example for him. Actions speak louder than words.
5. All this has happened for a reason. Take responsibility for your actions and you'll be pleasantly surprised how the pieces fall into place. A clean and sober life is like nothing you've ever experienced. You'll be able to actually live life instead of simply exist.
You're gonna be okay sweetie...if you'll only take responsibility for yourself. Sorry this is so long...my heart goes out to you.
2006-11-07 14:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jody B. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently about five months ago left my husband because of his drug use now. I have been married for ten years together for fifteen and have grown out of doing drugs about 9 years ago when I considered becoming a parent.
My husband never grew with me I have a five year old now and I left him to protect her from his addiction and self destruction. It took me five years to concieve because of his low sperm count. His continued drug use has changed him over the years and now he is mean and vengeful. He used to be my best friend.
I would recommend getting clean yourself the charges may actually be your silver lining and your way to some help. Do you love yourself is the question you should ask now,
It is not about him turning his back maybe he wants to grow up. Show him you are worth coming back to by using this to improve yourself as a person.
In order for someone to love you you have to be lovable.
Drugged out is not lovable it is sad and desperate.
2006-11-07 15:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by kizo918 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately your question is a hard one to respond to because your relationship is already dysfunctional due to the drug use , I'm not trying to be critical either, Because I am getting a divorce myself over this same subject and it also includes infidelities, so the best thing for your relationship would be to clean up and possibly start over if this is agreeable between the both of you, if not then I recommend you detach from the relationship,seek a twelve step program and start recovery right away and get your life back on track where you need to be, Good luck to you.
2006-11-07 13:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he's a winner in the first place. I would get yourself cleaned up and then get a new perspective on life and move on from there. There's so much more to experience from life than to do that kind of stuff.
2006-11-07 13:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will always love you! That is one emotion you can't just turn on and off. You both need counseling and I hope you get it soon. If you both want to save the marriage it will take alot of hard work from both people. He has to want it to work too! Talk to him do not raise your voice no matter what he says........
Good Luck to you both! God Bless!
Togther 13 / married 6
2006-11-07 13:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why he would walk out on you , but by doing so he is stating that no he does not love you. if he did he would be by your side. i know this from personal experience from the part your playing.sorry
2006-11-07 13:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmmm cuz he doesn love u...he done wit u...i am sorry if it sounds harsh but it is true...quit drugs please, and forget about him, he is long gone, he just show u.
2006-11-07 13:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Darksied 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop ! you are so pathetic !...move on and get your life sorted out !
2006-11-07 13:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by serengeti 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋