but she still denies it?
i knew it...
if you were gay wouldnt you tell your bf?
2006-11-07 13:31:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ah a situation close to my heart. I left my boyfriend for a woman. I always knew I was gay but thought I should be hetro. I denied it for a while while everyone knew it - I guess they were just waiting for me.
My boyfriend knew I had those inclinations. I guess he didn't realise how much until I left him for my girl. He didn't take it to badly though. He guessed it and I didn't have to tell him.
2006-11-07 18:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't want it to be factored in when it comes to her friendship with you.
She's obviously not quite ready to discuss it with you.
Maybe she's still got some issues she needs to resolve for herself.
Maybe she feels that this is a very personal matter right now. Maybe some time later she'll see it a little differently. Maybe she won't.
I don't think any of us can really know what we'd do in a specific situation because we are all different and some situations would make different people handle things different, etc.
Don't ask her about it. She'll probably get around to being ready to discuss it. Just keep being friends as you've been. Maybe that's what she wants for now. Even best friends have a right to keep some things to themselves.
2006-11-07 21:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is the same person as she was a day, a week, a year before you suspected she was gay. Only she can say if she is gay, and it can take years to process whether a person is gay (as I did) and how they are going to deal with it (such as whether to 'cover' by staying closeted and continuing to date guys). I advise lots of love and patience. And DONT out her or talk about her dilemma with anyone who knows her. There's justifiable fear in coming out. Gays are still sometimes thrown out of their parents' homes, beaten, and even killed by homophobes in the United States.
2006-11-07 23:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by lucy_ritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her eventually (if I was), but even though I consider it wrong, still love her like a friend and try to help her cope with these confusinf feelings...don't break up your relationship with her..if she says "No. I am not gay." don't push it, just let it alone until she is ready to tell, if she really is..
2006-11-07 21:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ellise T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be up to her. If she is gay and not out, why would you do anything to hurt her. Give her time and space. Respect is most important so let it alone if you are a true friend.
2006-11-07 21:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by W S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's gay but she's denying it? Then maybe she's not and you're just imagining things? If/when she wants you and anyone else to know, she'll tell you. Beyond that, who cares? She's your friend.
2006-11-07 21:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Empy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle with her. This is a very touchy subject, one that will most likely shape the rest of her future. Perhaps you should let her know how you feel and that it is OK with you. It is OK with you right? If you are turly her friend you must let her know that you are there for her always. Peace.
2006-11-07 21:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe give her time and if you are a girl maybe she has a crush on you and its killing her inside . but most importantly YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT IT otherwise she will feel even worst (and tell her its ok whit you) make sure she knows you are still and will continue to be her friend and please don't backstab her. as it could result in her suicide ( because she might still be experimenting with her own sexuallity and it is very hard to deal whit things like that sometimes)just be there for her
2006-11-07 21:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by rain fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably afraid of being rejected...just be a good supportive friend...suicide is highest among gay teens. really sad. there are support groups out there if she needs to talk to someone who understands what she's going through...check your community services directory for the stonewall organization...they also have a website. good luck to both of you.
2006-11-07 21:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he wont tell you cause he believe he can overcome his feeling.help him to overcome.you me a good instrument to build a better relationship with him by understanding his situation.he may have a gay companion and try to convince him to avoid this gay to make things or situation better.make him yours alone not with second choice.
2006-11-07 21:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by guillermo d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋