Is my wife eating fast food a betrayal?

Question

My wife recently she said that she wanted to loose a little weight and to stop eating processed foods. Part of this was she wanted to buy all our grocieries at the high end organic grocery store. I tried to compromise with her and say maybe we could buy our produce there but she insisted. So I ponied up cutting completely from my expenses(she insisted her shopping and pampering money not be touched) so we could spend the extra 300-400 dollars a month to get our grocereis from there. I recently reviewed our bank statement and found out that she has been eating Dunkin Doougnuts, McDonalds and Taco Bell everyday. Is this a betrayal? How do I handle this, when I confronted her she dismissed me by saying she's a grown woman and she can put in her body what she wants to.

Answer 1

If it's a betrayal then the only person she's fooling here is herself.

Answer 2

Yeah it is a betrayal since she told you that she wanted to lose a couple of pounds and she wanted to buy the other kind of groceries, and most of all since you have sacrificed in spending an extra $300 to $400 dollars a month so she could get what she wanted yes I would be very angry about it and I would set her down and tell her about herself whether she wants to hear it or not...It is not fair that you had to sacrifice and she still doing what she wants to do and dismisses it like what you said isn't nothing and to conclude make you feel less when she says that she is grown and she can put in her body what ever she feels like she wants...Personally I would be mad and that mean a lot of things would be said about all of that.
My advice to you is make her listen or give her an altamatum either she sticks to the diet or you are out of here....I know that seems kind of cold but look at the big picture here...you have sacrificed long enough for her and it is time for her to grow up and look what is going on right now...Talk to her and do it soon before you get to far and too deep!

Answer 3

Betrayal......well maybe but it sure is lying. And she insist that you do one thing while she does another.

No more high end organic grocery store for her. Cut that out and insist that she start buying things at a discount store. It is one thing to want to be healthy and work hard to get there but quite another to only make it seem that way.

You have a real problem here. Sounds like the only compromise she expects is on your part. Stop that. No more one sided compromise. If she will not then you have to begin questioning her love and devotion to you. I am sorry to tell you but that may be in serious question.

Answer 4

It sounds like it. I find it a little disturbing, as should you, that she has requested to get grocceries at the high end stores, yet eats at fast-food restaurants. All is for naught if she eats the crap from McDonalds (GMO, transfat city). There is no reason to eat organic if you're not serious about. She has proven she is not by eating at fast-food restaurants. You are right to be upset; the money could have gone elsewhere. You and she need to have a talk. Good luck in resolving this issue.

Answer 5

first off if she's contradicting herself.."i want to loose weight" but, you've confronted her with evidence she been eating junk food and her reply was "I'm a grown woman I can put into my body anything I please..." If I were you... I'd tell her to listen well: listen here grown woman. I'm a grown man and you have dug your own hole..I will not sacrifice from my expenses if you want your organic stuff and then are going to sabbatoge our efforts by putting all that crap in your sytem the deal is off. If she acts dumb founded remind her maybe her brain cells are reacting to all that poision she's been putting in her mouth. Stand your ground! Stand firm! She sounds like a control freak who wants everything her way...:don't touch my shopping money or papering money honey cuz I'm a goddess...ba hum bug. If you work hard and contribute financially to your house hold draw the line. Stand your ground. The only slack you should give her is when her argument doesn't make any sense becasue of all that junk she's putting in her trunk. You have my vote. Roar like a lion if you have to ..just don't play the fool!

Answer 6

Well yeah!!, And I want to know why YOU sacrificed , and she gave up nothing? This was all for her and she cant even appreciate that, she cops an attitude about its her business what she puts into her body? Oh hell no, take back what you sacrificed, and let her use her shopping and pampering money to buy her groceries and her fast food! I think you are a great guy doing what you did for her, but come on she is not staying the course so she is not committed to her so called goals. Are you sure she's not up to something? Think about it

Answer 7

Well if you're gullible enough to spend $300-$400 a month on groceries out of YOUR pocket then you pretty much deserve it. You should have been smart enouh to realize that one doesn't HAVE to purchase groceries from an "all organic" grocer when most grocery stores now carry organic foods, that don't cost what the "all organic" grocer costs. So who does the shopping in your home?

Answer 8

Let's not make food a fight.
Organic foods do not have the taste she desires; of which comes from fat! Fast foods have a lot of fat. You just have to be careful to pick small portion meals of fast foods, avoid fries, etc. And you still can have your organic foods and the fast foods.

Of course there is a lot more to this than I can tell you in this site. But this will be a beginning for the two of you.

Answer 9

She's already pigging out daily on garbage food. You should each have your own "food allowance" in this case and buy whatever you like.

There is no point in doing a half-a**ed job of the nutritional planning.

Answer 10

if she told you that then you should be very upset. if she is a grown woman and can put in her body what she wants then let her pay for what she wants. sounds to she just like the idea of eating healthy