I just got back from my aptartment to my parents home and my Dad wanted to help out my setting in place a windshield on a jeep i am restoring and Scraped the chrome on the costom hinges i purchased, i know it was out of kindness but I blew up. i didn't mean to. He wanted to surprise me after I had asked him to wait. Is it wrong for me to have blown up?
2006-11-07 13:20:40 · 8 answers · asked by Booker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we all get angry when things go wrong. if your dad had done a great job on setting the windshield in place - would you have been mad at him then? i don't think so. he didn't mean to damage the hinges, he thought he was helping. he is probably glad to have you back home and was trying to make you feel welcome. don't be too hard on him, or yourself. why don't you just tell your dad that you are sorry you blew up, i know you thought you were doing a good thing; but, please next time, listen to what i say. we were to do it together; and, maybe, this is a good thing that happened, because now you'll respect me enough to listen to what i ask of you. i've always tried to listen to you growing up and now that i am an adult i would hope you would listen to me.
2006-11-07 13:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no!
Look he messed up something you worked hard on and you can be miffed about it. But he was doing it for the right reason and he had your best interests at heart. So you really have to take that into account.
Now what I want to ask you is do you often do this? "but I blew up. i didn't mean to." I don't know if it's because you're impatient or reactive which is my problem too. But it's not appropriate and it can get you into trouble when you blow up in front of teachers, co-workers and superiors! So be careful and try to think before you act. You may want to talk to your dad and thank him for what he did but tell him that you were upset that he scratched that part you worked on and that you would love to have his help but he really has to wait so the two of you can do it together. Remember he did it for the right reason!
good luck and have fun restoring your jeep!
2006-11-07 21:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by mistyfan69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live day to day with rules and regulations. These help us standardize our behavior, actions, and our decision making abilities.
You set some guidelines on how you are to approach the restoration of your vehicle. Those guidelines were set aside by someone who thought they had the power to veto your decision. Damage was done. You have the right to not only feel that the damage was caused by carelessness, but also that your personal rules were swept aside unjustly. Problem is, that it was your Dad. A person that, until you've moved out, set these rules for you. My friend, you are in a pickle! Sort of damned if you do and damned if you don't, scenario. I think you need to approach your Dad with this statement in mind. Tell him you have been put in a position "unfairly" that you have no escape from being the bad guy. Apologize for the reactionary blow up, but make it known you were in the right to feel violated.
2006-11-07 21:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a natural reaction, but you definitely should apologize. When you "blew up" at your Dad, were you disrespectful? I hope not, because you have to honor your Mom and Dad. In the end, it's just a car. Your Dad is worth way more than metal. Some folk couldn't get their Dad's to notice them if they were wearing a neon sign. So, you're a lucky dude. Why not just tell him that you appreciated him trying to help you out and you're sorry that you blew up, and then change the subject.
2006-11-07 21:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was normal blow up, but you need to apologise to him and explain how you felt about it too. After all, you already recognize that the relationship is more important than any material thing, and will mean more to you in your lifetime than a scratch. Who knows, you may even look at it fondly as a memory of something you did with your dad once upon a time.
Best to you!
2006-11-07 21:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by dijudoit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Which do you value more, your custom hinges or your one-of-a-kind Dad?
It is understandable that you might have gotten upset. But it is simply inexcusable if you do not apologize and forgive your Dad very quickly.
If my Dad did this to my expensive and treasured car today I would be very, very happy. And do you know why? Because my Dad died when I was eight years old before he ever had a chance to teach me how to drive or work on my car.
So when will your Dad leave you?
WK
2006-11-07 21:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by olin1963 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you could have not blown up.
I can see both sides of this.
Your dad was trying to help but scraped the chrome,
I'm sure it hurt him as bad as it did you,
You could tell him you're sorry for blowing up and
you know he didn't mean to do it.
That would make both uf you feel better.
2006-11-07 21:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He is your dad. Apologize. If you want, tell him next time if you two can work on the Jeep together so you can spend time with him. Dad would love the time with you, and then you can "monitor" what is happening with the jeep. Its a win-win situation.
2006-11-07 21:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋