Behind their back?

Question

well im 14 and like this guy. he told me on msn he liked me too! Everyday he sits by me and pokes/tickles me. he sayed he wanted to be with me and maybe go to the movies or mini golfing. I told him i wasn't allowed to date. I want to but i can't. Should i go behind thier backs

Answer 1

No- but its unfair that your parents are so strict they wont let you out with a group of friends. You dont have to call it a date- if you went out in a large group.
Its totally natrual to want to be around guys and develope a relationship. I do agree you are a bit young to be alone and certainly wouldnt let you let you off with out at least other friends- but you need to experience life. Like it or not PARENTS- if you are too strict kids will find a way to do what they want.

Answer 2

sweetie, I tried this once. It's harder than you think. You will feel guilty, and maybe even do something you will regret later on. I know it doesn't sound like the best answer to you, but take it from someone who knows....deceit hurts people. and if you go behind their backs, it will only hurt worse when they find out...and trust me they will find out. If this guy likes you, he should ask your parents if maybe you could go on a group date, and if they say no, then he should respect the way that your parents feel. If he doesn't, or if you tell him "no, sorry I can't go out right now" and he just happens to "forget" about you, then you will realize that he was only in it for one thing...and i think you can guess what that is...and once you lose that, you can never get it back...Good luck...I trust that you will make the right choice

Answer 3

sweetie, I tried this once. It's harder than you think. You will feel guilty, and maybe even do something you will regret later on. I know it doesn't sound like the best answer to you, but take it from someone who knows....deceit hurts people. and if you go behind their backs, it will only hurt worse when they find out...and trust me they will find out. If this guy likes you, he should ask your parents if maybe you could go on a group date, and if they say no, then he should respect the way that your parents feel. If he doesn't, or if you tell him "no, sorry I can't go out right now" and he just happens to "forget" about you, then you will realize that he was only in it for one thing...and i think you can guess what that is...and once you lose that, you can never get it back...Good luck...I trust that you will make the right choice.

Answer 4

i had to date behind my parents back. i wouldn't reccommend it. at 14, u just dont know as much as u think u do. at 14 i thought i knew better than my mother, but i didn't. if only i had listened and waited to be 17 to date. i would of been so much more mature and alot of the things i did @14 would of never happened. u wouldn't believe how naive and gullible i was and i really thought i was grown.
sorry kid, just enjoy hanging out with your friends and having a good time. u will have plenty of time for relationships later.

Answer 5

This is such a cliche that youre reporting here. Look at all the idiots that are over reactiing on here. 14 is too old to say "grown man he like me" "is this bad"? Of course it is.....omg.
He tickle me????? lol Dont waste these peoples time...they actually care......and youre joking around. My guess is you're a teen needing attention ar a grown man yourself who is sick.

Answer 6

Not if you want your parents to trust you in the future. I think your to young to date also, 16 is a good age to start but maby you can talk your parents into going on a date with you. My mom came with me on my first date.
Why is he poking you, thats really immature.

Answer 7

Its not a date. Hes your friend right...????????
Then just go on a group date with him to the movies.
Its not really lying...your just not telling the whole truth! Parents NEVER need to know the whole truth anywayzzzzzzz

Answer 8

Definitely not! Your parents will eventually catch you and once that happens all of their trust in you will be gone. Ultimately it will result in them being even more strict. I would talk to your parents about coming to a compromise . . . perhaps a supervised date?

Answer 9

don't do it unless you want your parents to lose all trust in you.
if they do that they will only get more strict and make your life miserable. the best way to get more priviliges is to show your parents that you can be trusted to follow their rules.
follow their rules. parents really do know a thing or two about what is best.

Answer 10

Well its better alone while you are young. i mean you dont want no boy around you and feeling on you. if that happens he would try and get you to have sex. and if you dont he would brake up with you and you would still have feelings for him. thtas why you not post to ahve a boyfriend at a young age.