I am 19 years old, and attending a local community college while working part time. I moved back to live with my parents after taking a leave of absence from a prestigious four year university.
After taking a few months off of school I was motivated and did very well during the summer. Now as the semester is winding down I find myself frustrated with my life.
I am constantly frustrated about being unable to achieve anything in life, and feel that living with my parents right now while going to a school is a waste of time. I am trying to pay off my debt in order to possibly move somewhere else in the U.S. and get a nice fresh start there. I am not sure what I want to do, but I am unable to concentrate on my studies while living in a place that I consider comfortable, and familiar.
I am just wondering should I leave and set out to do something with my life, or just pay off my debt and struggle through school, work, life, etc.I am just trying to get my life on track and be happy.
2006-11-07 12:45:41 · 6 answers · asked by Taylor D 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I read this and said to myself, "This reminds me of me." I flunked out of a prestigious university after being on a full academic scholarship. I didn't want to be there, and no one would listen to me when I was trying to tell them that. It was too much of a transition for me and I couldn't handle it.
I ended up getting a job working at a department store, and after getting what was left of my check, I knew that wasn't what I wanted to do the rest of my life. I ended up going to school and getting my degree in the next four years. I've changed jobs seven times in the last ten years and am okay with that because I can truly say I've grown and learned from all of them.
The point I'm making is, life is a journey that you have to take. And sometimes it isn't the most comfortable journey to make. It can be frustrating but in the end, if you're paying attention, you'll find that all of the detours on the journey are for your good.
I have a few questions for you:
-Why do you think living with your parents while going to school is a waste of time?
- Why are you unable to concentrate on your studies? What is it about being at home that makes it difficult?
-What do you want to do with your life?
-What will make you happy? You said you want to be happy, so what will it take to make you happy?
- If you had a million dollars, what dream would you pursue? (Can you get a degree in that field?)
Always remember that you have a choice in how you deal with the obstacles that show up in your life. Don't allow them to control you- you find out how to control and conquer them.
None of us are put on this earth to struggle through life, but to have struggles in life. They help define us and shape our character. Learn from everything that you're going through. All of the frustration, disappointments, and confusion are learning tools. Let them shape you into a better you.
Good luck.
2006-11-07 13:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by bmotivated2change 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things that you can consider. First, take an aptitude test at your community college. This will help you pick a career that will suit your personality. I highly recommend this for someone who isn't sure that they are going to college for them or for their folks. Not everyone needs college to succeed in life. Second, stay at home and pay off your debt!!! Then, pay cash or cc bill off every month. (Unless you are making a big purchase, like a home.) If they are on your nerves, get up every day and go somewhere! You can go to a park, library, gym, friend's, job...etc. Just stay busy. If they see that you are on the go, and your not sleeping in everyday, they will become easier to get along with. (They will stop feeling like you need guidance.) I am sure you feel that you have taken a step backwards, but by taking the time to get your finances in order, you jumped ahead three spaces. Get it? Traveling is great. But just take vacations. It costs money to relocate, and unless your debt is paid off, you are not ready to move yet. Remember, you can fly stand by for almost nothing! Visit friends and family, and while you are there, pick up a newspaper, see how much rent is, and how much gas and groceries are. Write down how much this is BEFORE you move. Maybe you are just burnt out. Try to enjoy this time with your folks. They won't always be here, and before you know it, you'll have a new life, on your own. My best memories with my parents were when I was staying back home in between places. We were able to connect as adults, and they felt good knowing that they were helping me get a career in order, and allowed me to save enough money to live in a safe place that I later bought. They are your true friends. Good Luck.
2006-11-07 13:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by gardengirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What sort of thing do you want to achieve? Living with your parents is definately not a waste of time. Forget about moving somewhere - you can't run from your problems. They will follow you and you will add more when you get to where you are going. You have no idea what a great position you are in. Being happy is not searching for happiness. Since you are so focused inward, I suggest reading the Tao Te Ching. You will see what you are looking at.
A man asked Buddha how he could find relief from the heat of a very hot day. Buddha said, "Jump into a blazing fire."
2006-11-07 13:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with your parents, its a free place to stay, and community college probably is not as bad as your 4 yr school, i think that you will be thankful you stayed in school, becuase nowadays you will not make any money without a degree, and then you will never be happy because you will have to be working 5 jobs just to pay for rent........OR you could fine a nice rich man..that would be nice!
2006-11-07 13:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by smile4love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay with ur parents and get ur AA at ur community college by the time u finish ur AA you'll probably kno what you want to do. take a persoanlity test and other career counsoling. read some books on sort of things that interest you. believe me though of you leave ur parents house you would have trouble having to pay for school and apartment and food and everything else that comes up
2006-11-07 13:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only 19, get a education then do what you want
2006-11-07 12:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by robert w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋