he is a married man but i know and he knows hes not happy with his wife.
2006-11-07 11:53:55 · 39 answers · asked by lakendra c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing wrong with talking .... just don't be too quick to rush into something a little more serious till you're sure of the facts
Good Luck :)
2006-11-07 11:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naturally he is going to tell you he is not happy with his wife. How else could he get a little on the side. I'm sure at one point he was very happy with his wife or he wouldn't have married her. Do you think he will be any different with you? A man that cheats on his wife will cheat on anyone he is with. It has to do with the man, not his wife. No character. If you are single, move on, you deserve better than to share this worthless POS with anyone.
2006-11-07 12:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he TELLS you he's not happy with his wife. He is MARRIED, stay away. IF he is so unhappy then he will have no problems filing for divorce. Once that divorce is final he will no longer be married then you can find out if it is really YOU he wants. If he gives you any excuses about not wanting to divorce "because of the children" don't buy it. That is simply a ploy to get you into bed without him having to make any kind of committment. When they say that it means they're really not that unhappy in their marriage they just want to f*uck around and you seem to be ripe for the using.
2006-11-07 13:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this. A lot of comments you are probably getting is. Ohh, he just wants to get in your pants. Have his cake and eat it too. He will never leave his wife. Don't mess with him until he gets a divorce. First of all. A divorce is not easy to do and by the time that is over you will have found someone else. I say, keep talking to him because you may be helping him tolerate his marriage but, be warned that he will not come to you so easily so, be patient. If you want $%^* him. Get yours, because he is putting it out there. Yeah, it is bad that he is happy with you but if you play your cards right he might be yours. Good luck.
2006-11-07 12:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by VON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's bad! let him get out of his "unhappy" marriage first before you go any further. how many times must we witness females that get "played" by married men? Lemme tell you, in MOST cases, his marriage isn't as UNHAPPY as he wants you to believe. UNHAPPY in the sense that he's out trying to bang somebody else, while his wife is waiting for him to come home 2 her. Then when he's done with that chic, he gets to go home and get some luvin from his faithful wife! What about the old classic "I'm getting ready to divorce my wife." story? I swear!!! A friend of mine went through this and let's just say after almost 2 years of "getting ready" to divorce his wife, he's still with her and still gettin' some from my friend. Don't be played like that!! You'll want to at least wait until the ring has been removed from his finger and the ink is dry on those divorce papers before you consider getting into a relationship with this person.
2006-11-07 12:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are putting yourself in a bad place. You already feel bad because your talking about it. You know what to do. He's feeling a void in your life and you don't want to be alone. You need to let go of this man he's not yours. A man will tell you what ever because he's married. Pray to god ask for forgiveness and he will show you the way. Ask yourself if he's happy with me why is he still married.
2006-11-07 12:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! Your ruining a marriage. How does that make you feel?
Honestly, put yourself in the shoes of this woman. And your husband was online talking to another woman. How would you feel? I bet you wouldn't feel to peachy. This man isn't even a man, why would you want to consider being with him if he is married! I mean, HELLO! Imagine, you two get together and then he is unhappy with you. Then he moves on. He needs to work out his problems with his wife, not some other woman. And if I were you, I wouldn't want to be the other woman. I have more pride and more respect to allow myself to be with a married man and ruin a home,whether it is a happy one or not.
2006-11-07 11:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he mean happy with you??????
Honestly, and I am only saying this to help you out, but as nice as he is to you and you are with him, he can never be your friend and you cannot be his marriage advisor.
If you continue to talk to this man or have any more to do with him, then he may very well tempt you into an affair with him and that is something you don't want to happen and it will destroy whatever friendship you will have with him and his best friend should be the one he lives with - not a woman outside of his marriage.
Keep your distance and let him know that he must speak to a marriage guidance counsellor and not you about his problems with or without his wife. A lot of married men will stay with their wives happy or not and they because they are too afraid to lose what they and are rarely the ones divorcing their wives.
You are single and free and he is not only putting his problems on to you, but hoping that you might feel sorry for him so that you might want to have sex with him to forget about his problems, but I wouldn't go down that avenue at all all with him as he will hurt you too and will still be with his wife in the end I can promise you this.
You are not a dumping ground for his issues and even if he likes you, he is liking you for the all the wrong reasons. So many women who have had affairs are dumped in the end and very very few women get to be with someone married in the long term so don't be used in this way and if he is so unhappy, he needs to take action and not complain about it to someone who cannot help him.
Sorry that my advice is hard to take, but I am being honest with you and you deserve to be free of his issues and not enticed into anything that he will surely end up hurting you very badly if you remain to be his listening ear.
He will try and lure you to feel very sorry for him if you keep being his friend and before you know it, you will be sucked into having an affair and he will give you false hopes that he loves you and wants to be with you, but they will all be lies and what he will be doing is abusing your trust in him if he tries to make this more than what it is.
Cut the contact even though it is going to be hard, but if you don't, he will lure you further into his problems and eventually into bed, so don't, listen to his stories anymore - he has to sort this out alone or with his wife. Enjoy your life and find people who are free and single you can be friends with and the sooner you do this, the sooner you will get over him and the best thing you can do for him will be to end it - he will be forced to resolve his problems if you do this so you will be doing him a great favour.
You cannot remain friends with this man if you don't want him to abuse your trust in him as a friend, so get out now and let him get on with his life and you yours. You will look back one day and know that you did the right thing.
2006-11-07 12:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. I know everyone keeps telling you to make him prove it. I have heard the guy I am friends with talk on the phone with his wife and neither one of them are happy but they don't want to hurt their 2 small kids with a divorce right now. Be there for him and if you want to compare stories or talk IM me.
2006-11-07 13:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by shassiebell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey that is the oldest line in the book
2+ years later i have finally walked away from my married lover who was not happy with his wife...why
because he is never going to really leave and i deserve better in my life and if he is so unhappy he would have left a long time ago
they (married men) will say whatever it takes as long as they need to when what they really should say i am not happy with having sex only with my wife and can we have sex....
that would be the honest and real thing for him to say to you
2006-11-07 13:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋