how overcoming the obstacles of fear?

Answer 1

1. Know the difference between your fears and reality. When you are climbing a rock face on belay from above, when you have a good anchor, when you have the proper training and you trust your teammates, exposure becomes a great view. You may see the void soaring all around you, but you know you aren’t going to get hurt. The exposure you experience is a passive thing that poses a threat only if your thoughts begin a negative spiral downward. You do have control of your thinking. A lot of those thoughts may be in the “what if” category. What if what if doesn’t happen?
2. Know that it is natural to be afraid, especially in high, airy places. It’s also natural to be nervous in front of a lot of people, as in a race or public speaking situation. Do not trust the person who claims never to be afraid. Fear is our protector and it is built into our brains to help us survive. It is possible to accept your fear and use it to make yourself more careful, cautious, prepared, and alert. For instance, when you get that feeling on a climb, check your tie-in, make sure you have had enough food or water recently, or that you have on enough clothing; check the sky for weather, and your surroundings for safety, and then move on, staying more alert and focused on each move, as best that you can. If you get scared before a competition, use that fear and adrenaline boost to further motivate you. Try to duplicate the “fear situation” as closely as possible before you get into competition so that you will be as prepared as possible.
3. Be very clear with yourself about what exactly scares you. Know the difference between actual danger and subjective fear. “Fear of heights” is an example of this. It is not “heights” that hurt you, nor is it falling -- it’s LANDING VERY HARD that does. It may not be completing a 90-minute triathlon that scares you, but rather the specific fear that your ankle won’t tolerate the running at the end, or your bike’s brake pads are not in good enough condition to use in a race with a steep hill mid-way through the bike part. Keep your perspective realistic and focused on the specific environment, taking things one step at a time, and give them your full attention. Many of the steps you take on a mountain or in a race would not give you a second thought at ground or non-competition level. Keep your perception clear and uncontaminated by “what if’s.”
4. Build a phrase or affirmation to use when you start to feel fear. This acknowledges the onset of your fear, and your action to manage it. This might be as simple as “(name), BREATHE, You can do this” or “One step at a time.”
5. There is more than one word for “fear.” One of them is “excitement.” Another is “challenge.” Some people prefer “exhilaration.” If you can get rid of the “f” word and find alternatives, psychologically that may be half the battle. Be aware that what others may report as “scary” may not seem so to you. Hold to your own judgment and don’t let dramatic reports throw you off until you have been able to see for yourself what your natural reaction will be.

Answer 2

The same way that you get rid of anger since, on a certain level, they're linked.

Years ago, I was working on ridding myself of anger and fear so I resorted to a set of Neuro-Linguistic Programing tapes that were, basically, self-hypnosis and they did wonders for me.

I could try to find them and give you specifics if you want but don't remember off-hand and am afraid some goon will write me up for some violation of the yahoo rules and policies if I name the maker (even though I sure don't get any compensation for recommending them). As I recall, a local holistic counselor had talked about this program and I managed to get a used set off eBay because they were too expensive in "new" condition.

Answer 3

take baby steps...and confront your fear.....and then you will realise that there is nothing to fear.....of course that depends on your fear. not enough info in your question