I am solely responsible for my two handicapped grandparents because the rest of the family lives so far away they can claim that distance as being an obstacle, and because I love them for all they have done for me and all of their adopted kids over the years.
My grandmother has dementia and regularly says some awful things about me, especially when she thinks I left, or not there.
My grandfather is oblivious to reality, solely focused on his TV and nothing has ever changed that for long.
I pay their bills, buy their groceries, take them everywhere they want to go even if it conflicts with my time to do homework, and am at their total disposal if they should call me. They can't afford any help because the other kids have ran them so far in debt that they don't have any free money.
I am a full-time college student, responsible for my own problems and bills, but because I love and respect my grandparents I am bound to endure such things that most people would never tolerate.
2006-11-07 11:47:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are in over your head. Call your local county mental health clinic and see if they can refer you to some agencies that can help. You are probably eligible for some respite care, where a new caretaker comes in part time to help lighten your load. Good luck!
2006-11-07 11:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad. You have to understand that with your grandparents being older and with their different "conditions" you can't take anything they say seriously. They obviously were loving, caring, giving people at one point in their lives or you wouldn't feel obligated to take care of them for all the things that they used to do for you. Keep that thought in your head at all times and remember that it's the dementia and old age that is causing them to behave in such a manner. You may try and arrange to have one of the other "far away" family members come in once or week or so to help you out with your grandparents. I'm assuming that with all the adopted kids over the years, someone should be able and willing to help you and your grandparents out. GL2U!!!
2006-11-07 19:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need a break. By the sounds of it a home isnt the way to go that is just far to expensive im not sure what to suggest really. I know how hard it is to deal with someone who has dementia....my grandad developed it and eventually as a whole family and for the sake of my nan we came to the agreement that a home for him would be the best. We found it hard dealing with as a family let alone on our own so i cant even begin to imagine what you are going through. The hardest part is the verbal abuse.....My mum was called a 'whore, slut, husband pincher,' by some women when we went to vist my grandad at the home.
I really do hope it works out for you but you def need a break that is for sure!!
2006-11-07 19:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and wife took care of her mother until death then my dad moved until he died. maybe over a ten year peroid . it was hard to do but with both of us we got the job done . last few months of dads life he was spoon fed. . so be there when they need you . you will reap your reward later in life. and you will know in your heart you done your best
2006-11-07 20:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by vinel10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell them to stop with the bad mouthing or you are going to stop taking care of them and it they keep it up just put them in a nursing home.
2006-11-07 19:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local nursing home or assisted living facility. you need a break
2006-11-07 19:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋