Why do I prefer my own company?

Question

I am a popular, sociable person with lots of friends and work colleagues, but people think I'm strange when I need me time! Dont get me wrong I like a night out every now and then, Im 29 its not cos im getting old cos Ive always enjoyed sitting in my house taking time to read, watch tv etc. I get really irate if I dont have some time to reflect on my week and where Im going. I see friends who have kids and they dont get a minute to themselves and are really depressed. I feel quite priviledged! Discuss!

Answer 1

you probably prefer your own company because you think a lot. i'll contrast me and a friend of mine. i like me time, he would die, literally die, if he didn't talk to anyone for one whole hour. it's not because he's handicapped in anyway, it's just that he never thinks. he got caught shoplifting after going to the same store at the same time every weekend for a month. they hav video evidence. i'v always thought which is why my mom is always on my case about not being around others. i like people but they can be distracting sometimes. they don't let you just sit and think. your youth discription matches mine almost perfectly. just say that you have an excess of intellect. hope this helps

Answer 2

I think it is compulsory to have 'me time' i have a socialable life along with dependant and like you i think if i dont get that time to myself then i will not be the person to be socialable etc...

I think the alone time gives you time to reflect and work out who you are and to better yourself for the next week or do someting different I do believe that it where your sanity is kept...within you and to bring it out when the alone time approaches.

There are people out there who do not believe in being on their own and dont understand the time you need and there are some people out there who do want to be alone and do not know how to do this.. you might say its easy but to them its not for many reasons as such they need their phone, the blackberry, the laptop etc.. which is ashame then leads to depression as they think the are in control which is not the case majority if the time and when things get built up, they begin to overload and emotions spiral downwards as the control isn't there.

But liking your own company is a good thing, the best of all is making and spending the time on your own.

Answer 3

Yeah im a very sociable person as well and I love to go out but during the week i do need alittle time to catch up on some kayla time. I love reading so i do that or pop in an old movie. No kids PARTy!

Answer 4

Although humans are social mammals some like to be alone. It's usually the result of having spent long periods in childhood or early adolescence being left to one's own devices for long periods of time. I'm the same even though I'm married now; I'm glad sometimes when my wife goes off out for a couple of hours and I get to do stuff I want to. It's commonly called anti-socialness and can become problematic in extremis, and it's why recluses are recluses. Mild forms occur naturally and are harmless; you can go the other way too and develop a phobia about being alone.

Answer 5

Your comfortable with your self. Good trait. That would mean you are adjusted to your life and you enjoy it. You probably cannot understand others in those ruts.

I think one day you are going to have all that blown away when the right person comes along. Your life will be turned over and upside down. mm.. then try this.. take yer magazine/paper to the loo or bath..

Smile.. good question though.

Answer 6

great question... as someone said before, we all need a bit of affirmation from time to time, and this is one that rarely gets aired.

i'm the same way... i find being with people all the time draining, and i need my own company to re assert myself. i'm not shy, it's just that in a social group we share ourselves, and in doing that i get lost and need to come back to myself.
yes me too on the irate thing. when friends come to stay for longer than a few days, i've had to learn how to get my own space with out offending them.
the only times i've successfully shared space with people long term as been with 2 chinese friends... in fact the second ended up having his girlfriend move in as well!! well, hand on heart, not once did i ever feel like my personal space was invaded. there is alot we in the west can learn from the far east countries in our ways of 'being'.

Answer 7

I so know where you're coming from!
I have a child, and find I'm not getting enough sleep because 'my' time is when she's in bed, and I'm too jealous of it to go to bed myself.
I like chatting with friends, but I can't stand to have people 'in my face' all the time - I don't understand those people who can't be alone! Don't feel pressured to conform; be yourself, you're not the only one.

(Thanks for asking this question - we all need a little confirmation of our right to be who/how we are once in a while! :) )

Answer 8

Wow you sound a lot like me, 29 single, friends all with kids (and its a full time job!!!) But see I enjoy spending time with my friends and their kids. I dont like to get all wild during the week, but sitting home on the weekends isnt something I like to do anymore.

Answer 9

I understand how you feel. As much as I love being around people, at the end of the day, I only want to write in my journal and just chill. I think its so important because we all need time to relax and reflect. If they think your wierd, and if you feel lucky that your lack of children gives you this time, I say who cares.

Answer 10

I prefer song and myself my toddlers and pets, i do no longer % a society or people who % drama and strife , i like my own business enterprise , its very genuine, I easily have in no way got here across a companion that replaced into so companionable as solitude....