im 13 and im pregnant please what should i do?

Answer 1

1. Make absolutely sure.
2. Tell your parents, guardian, whoever is supposed to be taking care of you and making sure crap like this doesn't happen. (My children won't even be allowed to be ALONE with someone they like before they're 16.)
3. Tell the father. He has a right to know. If he is underage, tell his parents, too, so that that way, you'll get help. Babies are not cheap.
4. Try to find a job. Babies are not cheap. Really. I don't know how many diapers they go through a day, but they triple in size in their first year, and they need baby furniture, and clothes, and diapers, and toys, and special laundry soap, and all sorts of other things. Your parents won't want to support the baby all on their own. It's your responsibility, it's your mess, and it's time for you to help clean it up as best you can.
5. Decide whether or not you want to continue with the pregnancy. You could have an abortion, or take the abortion pill. It's too late for the morning-after pill.
6. If you don't want to abort, and you don't want to keep the baby, you should look into adoption. They have open adoptions, and you could go visit your child, if the parents let you.
7. After the pregnancy is over, you need to go on birth control so this doesn't happen again. (Unless you keep the baby and decide to breastfeed, because then you'll only be able to go on a certain kind of birth control for lactating mothers.)

Aside from all that, you should think about how you got into this mess and how you need to get yourself out, and how this is YOUR responsibility, and if you're going to do adult things, and have a child, you're going to have to be an adult, so no more fun teenager things for you. No mall, no boyfriends, no going out or staying out late, no school dances, no proms, no spur of the moment plans (baby-sitters are hard to find at short notice), no drinking, no drugs, no smoking, your grades are going to drop because you're going to be EXHAUSTED trying to take care of the baby, and the household chores, and you'll probably need to get a job, too, and something's going to have to give. Are you ready for all that? Are you ready to be a grown-up at 13? (I know you're going to say yes - I would have said yes at 13, too, because I was sure I was grown enough to do anything - I was wrong. I'm 19 and I just had to call a friend of mine to help me with rent because I won't be able to cover it.)

Do you want to be living in a crappy studio apartment that's so small you can barely turn around without bumping into walls? Or working three jobs so you can put food on the table and pay rent and pay for day care and baby-sitters and shoes because that baby is growing so fast her shoes are too small every couple of months and clothes and gas for your car and car payments and the electric bill and phone bill and gas bill and water bill and taxes and doctor bills - is that what you want to have?

You've got a long, hard road ahead of you, honey. I hope your parents will support you and help you, no matter what choices you make. Above all, I hope they love you.

Answer 2

Sweetie,first you must speak with your parents or a trusted adult.Right now,you need emotional support more than ever.You should then contact an obgyn for an appointment to make sure everything is ok,and they can give you information you may need such as which prenatal vitamins are best for you,and which medications you should/shouldnt take while pregnant,etc. Now,you must make a decision.This is a very hard decision to make,and you have nine months to make this decision.Consider the input your family and friends gives you,and take that into consideration,although you must ultimately make the decision that is best for you.You have two options(I say two,because i do not believe abortion is acceptable in any situation.That is my opinion,and im sticking to that.).You can A.Keep The child.With your familys support you can keep this child.You can raise this child and continue to go to school.It will NOT be easy hun,but it isnt impossible as many young females do it everyday.Your other option is B.Placing the child up for adoption.There are many couples out there who have the finances,and the love for a child they just cant physically seem to have one.They would love this child reguardless as to the circumstances in which it was brought into the world,and they would love it just as if it were their own.Now,they have what is called an "Open adoption".This simply means you are placing the child up for adoption,however you get to keep in contact with the child and the family through the childs life.This way you wont be a mystery to the child as he/she grows older.They keep in contact by email,phone calls,pictures,and even in some situations weekly visits. This will be a hard decision,and you should consider what is best for you hun.Do not let anyone force you into a decision.You will only regret later down the road with "What if's".Make the decision best for you but you have nine months to decide.Dont rush into a decision now,think about it first.I wish you the best of luck.Have a good night hun.

Answer 3

well the first thing i would do is relax

the next thing i would do is TELL YOUR PARENTS! never try to hide it from your parents they will find out anyways and you don't need that added stress.

Take a trip to your local health department. Have a friend, a relative, or someone you trust go with you. Get checked out, and checked for any STD's and HIV or infections (yeast infections are very common when pregnant) then talk to one of the counselors they have there, ask them what they think you should do in your situation.

Think about your future, think about how having a baby will effect it and think about if you will be able to give the baby a good home and be a good mother, if not you could abort the baby ( i am personally against that unless you were raped or are in danger of dieing) however there is always adoption there are many families that are just waiting to adopt babies. Many adoption agencies will let you keep in touch with your child.

What ever you decide make sure it is the best decision for YOU! If you do decide to keep the baby there are many options for you, there are a lot of programs that the states offer for young mothers, i would suggest that you get involved in them because being thirteen YOU cant not afford a baby!

god bless you! and good luck!

Answer 4

If I was 13 and pregnant, I'd get an abortion, but the choice is really up to you. Sure, people here will go on and on about how babies are blessings and really, they are, when you're old enough and mature enough to take care of one. If you have a baby this young, you're going to miss out on a lot and have tons of regrets. People here aren't being realistic (probably watch too many Lifetime movies). You made a mistake and now, you can learn from it. If you have a child now, this is what will happen:

1. You'll struggle through school because taking care of a baby and going to school is difficult.

2. You'll get stuck working low-paying jobs since it'll be difficult to finish your education. They'll be practically no time for studying since you'll have to work.

3. Even if it's not true, you'll gain a reputation as some "slut" in school because that's how teens think.... if you have a kid, you "must" be a ho (I'm not saying you are, only what your peers are likely to think).

I think the smartest thing for you to do is to talk to your parents and have an abortion asap. Raising a baby at 13 isn't glamorous and chances are, the baby's father won't even be around. I knew of a girl who had a child at age 14. The baby's father left right after his son was born and she ended up as a drug addict because she couldn't handle the stress associated with having to go to school, work, and support her child. Having an abortion now won't effect your chances of having a child later on when you're ready to.

However, if you refuse to have an abortion because you don't believe in them, then adopt your child out to a loving couple that can provide for him or her.

Answer 5

first of all do not have an abortion....and i really think you should tell your parents i know that it is hard but you will feel allot better I'm 16 and i am pregnant as well and it is hard but when you get it over with you will feel so much better and you will have all that stress off which by the way is not good for your baby..and do not listen to all the people that are telling you that you are not going to succeed in life that is not true finish school and have a happy pregnancy.well GOOD LUCK..!

Answer 6

what ever u do DONT have an abortion.......... that baby has been given to u to teach u a lesson. if u dont use protection u will get pregnant. but anyway u need to tell ur parents and then go to the doctor. 13???? u should still be playin with barbie dolls girl I would beat my daughters A S S.

Answer 7

I am sure that you are scared. I would be too. You are a child yourself. My advice is you talk to your parents. I know it is hard to tell them that you are pregnant, but they will be dissapointed only for a little while. They will get over that, and help you out. Get to the Dr right away. Make sure that you take care of yourself. Discuss all of your options with your parents. Aborting is a last resort. It is very emotionally taxing, and you may regret it later. There are a lot of people out there that cannot have children, me included. Make sure that you concider all of your options. Keep taking care of yourself. Take care and good luck.

Answer 8

well it all good i use to be 13 now i'm a littel older but i still didnot open my leg and u r pregnant i donot know much about being pregnant but i know u have to tell r parents some day or sometime it better u tell them now before your stoma.... get big cause tell will know or go to the doctor and make sure it always good to have a sec op....on then go see the boy who knock u up parents and him if he donot want the baby just be the best mom u can be and i hope u learned to keep u legs close

Answer 9

properly, there is not any way around it, you could properly be scared, and that i dont recommend to sound harsh, yet you will desire to be. are you absolutly a hundred% particular you're pregnant? in case your no longer, then you definately would desire to upload the small print approximately why you think of you're, and ect. your parents will would desire to comprehend, you will would desire to flow the physician, wellbeing branch, so in case you're a hundred% p.c. particular you're pregnant, i recommend took the try to comprehend for particular, then tell them. in case you at the instant are not particular, and you're taking a try that asserts your no longer, then any further have secure intercourse!!!!!! you're too youthful to be doing that altogether, and you will desire to truly think of approximately that. it doesnt count what your pals are doing, or if some boy says its all ok. its a count of self appreciate. your basically a baby as quickly as, and mutually as from time to time it would suck, enjoy it mutually as you could, and depart the grown up stuff for later, once you bigger comprehend and take care of it!

Answer 10

A cousin of my boyfriend is also thirteen and gave birth to a little boy not too long ago.Yes you are VERY young but you got yourself into this situation and being a parent takes alot of responsibility.You ll mature once the baby is born that is if you decide to keep it.Oh please keep it!A baby is a blessing from god no matter what situation might have taken its tole.plus,when you are older youll have a little soul to live for.