How much do you think a different social, educational and material situation between the spouses matter?

Question

Can a marriage survive all these differences, or it will always be the same--meaning one person will always feel less important?
I know that Love usually wins it all-but i really want to know what would be the key solution for making the very often fights fade away, because i begin to fear that love will fade away soon.

Answer 1

I don't think "love" wins it all... Love is like a plant that grows best under certain conditions, and whitheres away if the conditions are totally wrong. I think as long as the two people can *accept* their differences - they will not have a problem; the thing is, most of us are not very good at accepting - we want other people to be more like us (there's some evidence for a biological explanation for this). So, trouble starts when we start trying to change the other person to suit our idea of a good partner. Differences can be overcome if the partners truly "agree to disagree" - it just doesn't happen that often, especially on big things like committment, religion, kids, finances, etc.

Answer 2

Okay, my husband and I are from two different worlds. My crazy family and lack of upbringing is completely different than my husbands loving and supportive upbringing. His mother taught him that education is very important while mine was just happy that I woke up and went to school. Now, I ofcourse pressed myself and eventually acquired my Bachelors, but I struggled because of my lack of interest in High School.

Nevertheless, no matter the social, educational or material differences that we may have, made our relationship stronger because that upbringing that we both had was the right combination for a wonderful marriage.

Yes, sometime we butt heads about how things should be done, or he may be totally over my head with something that he says, but we love each other and learning from one another is a gift in itself. So, if these minor bumps are what are scaring you then you need to reevaluate your feelings. Most of all talk with you partner about why you are feeling this way. Maybe by getting things out in the open this will open the door for understanding and a closeness that you have never felt before.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

well you know they say opposites attract, but those same things that first attracted you to that person can be the same thing that tears you apart. so you have to decide in the very beginning if these differences are something that you can deal with for the rest of you life and if so you have to make your partner feel like your equal and not toss these differences up in every argument because right now your partner feels insecure when they should feel secure.

Answer 4

All couples argue but u can learn how to discuss your differences like two mature adults instead of fighting and bickering at each other all the time. Most importantly, learn to compromise.

Answer 5

IT does matter!
The closer these situations you described are between the spouses the more compatible and balanced the relationship is.

Answer 6

Good ? & answers.