My fiancee' and i have been together for 4 years and had the most amazing sex on a daily basis until recently, it slowed to almost a halt. I understand there is an age difference, he's 40 and I am 28. Everytime I mention the subject he gets moody. Can anyone help.
2006-11-07 11:14:47 · 27 answers · asked by suckowsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
2006-11-07 11:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not even willing to discuss it then there could be a problem. As a rule if it slows down it is usually due to convenience for both parties. However, even then they would talk about it. It's possible he's getting it somewhere else.
It's also possible that your need for it on a daily basis as a means of him proving he loves you could be a turn off. Sometimes if a woman is insecure she can only feel secure when she has sex with her partner. This isn't healthy. After a time the man could feel like he is with a child instead of an equal partner.
There could be any number of reasons for the slack but a conversation with your partner is necessary to ascertain what direction to go in for justification.
2006-11-07 12:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into yourself for the answers. is sex always the same ole same ole, how can u try and spice it up. try talking about sex over a nice dinner and after a couple bottles of wine. he may be going something at this age that he is not used to. he could be worried about being able to keep a 28 yr old satisified, he could be having problems at work, etc... does he have a problem getting/maintaining an erection? these are all possibilites? have u been acting differently lately. have u been getting attention from a younger man and albeit that this attention my be innocent it could still be bothering him. take it from a man who is 46, the 40th b-day for a man is a really big one emottionally. so if u love this man try to find out what is up without accussing him.
2006-11-07 11:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a sad fact, as time goes by in the relationship we get consumed with other things in life. Kids, work, school, maintaining a home, there is a lot to a relationship. So after like the first or second years sex kinda starts taking a back seat, but it doesn't have too. You can always make an effort to make it a priority in your relationship and keep it going.
2016-05-22 08:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference should have gone away, like its not even an issue. He should never get moody with you and if you want it he should give it to you. A man should be ready at all times for his girl freind, you would do this for him. The key to any relationship is communication. There is nothing wrong with a little viagra.
2006-11-07 11:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by manfromblueriver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to get some counselling but probably the guy will not admit he has a problem anyway. He could have ED. A lot of men get it and there is no shame in it. He may need to go to the doctor and talk to him about it. There is ED medication and it is very good and will keep him erect when the time comes.
Sounds to me like you two need to sit down at the kitchen table and talk about it. Right? Right!
Good Luck to you and I hope you two can settle this issue.
2006-11-07 11:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by PsychoSam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the age difference could make a difference. He could be suffering from ED and may be embarrassed to talk with you about it. I don't know about anyone else but I would think by the age 40 anyone would be slowing down. Try and get him to talk about ED. It should be something you could approach as you have been together for 4 years.
2006-11-07 11:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can not relate to the age thing cause I am 43 so I would say it might be stress or there might be family problem not with your's but then again it might be cumunication but talk to him and ask him talk about it but you are younger then him so there might be sometimes he will not be able to or maybe he is having a hard time in maintaining it and do not now how to tell you go to a couple counseling. Good luck
2006-11-07 11:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is something that we all need and keeping it fresh each time is what is important.
Perhaps he is looking for something new and nice with you. Try different things with him. Don't do it the same way each time, dress up if you have too.
Since i'm a scuba diver, i can only suggest that trying a new sport that involves the both of you where you can try something kinky later on would help alot too. It can be alot of fun in this way.
2006-11-07 11:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he's not, but he could be cheating on you. Only reason I say this is because my hubby and I have been together 5 years, and I just lost interest in having sex with him, because I found someone who turns me on more. I know it is awful, but my man never pays attention to my needs where sex is involved, only his, no matter what suggestions I make.
Anyway, if you are doing everything you can to please him, then I wouldn't worry about him cheating, but just keep your eyes open for the signs.
2006-11-07 11:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋