I have been living with a man for a year. We are basically husband and wife. I have recently found that he has signed up on numerous dating sites, and have been exchanging emails with then and with ex girlfriends with personal messages. He says this is not cheating and I say it is. Please is this considered as cheating now?
2006-11-07 11:11:19 · 38 answers · asked by pamelacline44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he hide his on-line relationship? Why?
There is your answer.
You are living together, yes, but you are not 'basically' married.
Living together is not the commitment that marriage is.
You are someone, a girlfriend, who sleeps with him
and shares expenses with him...a roommate with benefits.
I say kick him out, or move out, and see him on line.
His actions are NOT those of a contented husband, happy boyfriend, or committed lover.
2006-11-07 11:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all - you're not married there is not "basically husband and wife" you either are or you aren't.
It doesn't bode well that you are content with the fake commitment of acting like your married, without really being married. if you were really married you could say hands down, no questions asked, this is cheating - because when you're married, even flirting is cheating.
I'm guessing this "being practically married" was his idea so he could have his cake and eat it too. He gets all the benefits of having a wife without the responsibility of having to be husband. Do yourself a favor - take a heartbreaking step back, and ask yourself if this is really the kind of guy and the kind of situation you want.
Good luck
2006-11-07 11:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a side of cheating even if he doesn't think it isn't I will say that I was there to and the problem is that he is not getting something from you or you are not talking to him or what ever it is but tell him sorry it is just that. I wouldn't break up with him but I would let him know it is bad and let him think it is bad and just maybe he will stop cause he doesn't want to lose you. It happen to me and I will stay away from it all. Good luck
2006-11-07 11:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, let me get it straight... If this is not "cheating", it would somehow make it ok for a married person to do it? I think you're missing a point here; going on singles sites and "cybering" with your ex-girlfriends is not compatible with committment to your siginficant other, no matter what term you use to describe the behavior.
2006-11-07 11:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes that is cheating! If you are happy and in love with your mate why in the hell would you cyber. You need to sit and think to your self why am I doing this? if you aint happy then leave. And by the way if you are chatting on line in rooms or what ever it is easy to type words. But meaning them is another meaning. But yes it is cheating
2006-11-07 13:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to do this!
Do exactly what he is doing with a few exes and see if he has a problem with it!
And don't hide it! Practically leave the messages out in the open, see what he does.
If he gets jealous, or mad just simply say, you didn't consider it cheating.
2006-11-07 11:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is happily taken by you, why would he feel the need to be on dating sites? Dating sites are made for singles, people looking to find someone to be with. Even if he's not cheated physcially, he has cheated emotionally. He is expressing intimate feelings with girls of his past and with girls on sites.
Get out of this relationship; he doesn't respect you.
2006-11-07 11:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't cheating. It is keeping up to date with friends online. Cheating is when there are physical things going on between them. Seems the internet is good at meeting but lacks real substance otherwise.
2006-11-07 11:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is cheating and why would you cyber date when you have the real thing... plus that is just gross they are probably 55 year old men on those dating sites..
ღKay
2006-11-07 11:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing has happened to me - I got out and never looked back. A leopard never changes its spots. My ex made promises to me as well and then we had girls turning up on our front doorstep, he went interstate to meet girls.....it all went pear shaped. Men like this cannot be trusted in the long run and it is cheating!
2016-05-22 08:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋