my bf of 2 years just broke upw ith me. he said he doesnt love me anymore and it was a complete shock to me. i was not expecting it. He has alot going on he is a full time student in college, (so am i) and works almost 40 hours a week. he has been struggling with grades and now the semester is winding down. he tried to break up with me a few months before to focus on school more. and now he just broke upw ith me caue he doesnt love me anymore. I lied to him a half year ago about having a stupid web page called "mayspace" which im sure you all know. and he says he hasnt felt the same towards me since. I know i ruined our relationship cause i stupidly lied and have been trying to do whatever it takes to regain his trust. so he just said he didnt love me and he might give us another chance when the semester is over since there is alot of stress going on right now. he said we can still be friends. but i know that will be hard
2006-11-07 11:07:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i jknow i need tog et over all of this first b4 we can work on being friends. He was crying ALOT when he told me and was holding me while i cried. Do you think there can be a chance of us gettign back together?
i asked if it was there was another girl but he said no, and i believe him sinc ehe has so much on his plate right now and have never lied or hurt me before
2006-11-07 11:09:11 · update #1
i know but since i lied abotu having a myspace then you knwo what else could i lie about?that was his point and its very true. btu i havent lied to him abotu anything else. but i think he's just too busy with school and work and doesnt have enougth time for me. i think he's under alot of stress. i want the best for him. he was my first bf im 19 and he's18 we were talking about gettign married in liek 4 or 5 years. but as you can see you never know whats goign to happen!
do you think he wants to ry again latter sometime or is he just saying that since he diesnt want to hurt me anymore?
2006-11-07 11:14:02 · update #2
its not about the myspace its the fact that i didnt think b4 i talked and lied to his face.he looked on the desktop of my computer and saw a pic of me and joked "oh is that for your myspace" and i just blurted out no...
2006-11-07 11:16:28 · update #3
I am going through exactly what you are going through as well. My girlfriend just left me because she was not sure she loved me either. All I can tell you is that it is going to hurt really bad. There will be some days you cannot breathe because of the pain it causes. The only thing I can tell you is that you need to find two very important things: First, you have to find something creative to take out your frustrations upon. While focusing on your studies can help, it really does nothing. Write, draw, sing, dance, do something to get it out of you. Second, this is going to sound very out there, but you need to find a place where you are happy. For me, it is in the rain. I love being in the rain. There I have no problems and I just smile. It can be physical or in your mind, but you have to find that place. Go there every so often and just enjoy yourself. It will make you feel better. Meditation can help too.
As for your boyfriend: I think that if he is going to get pissed about something as dumb as myspace, you may need to really take a look at him and ask "What the ****?"
Also, if he loves you, which I think he does or he would not bring this drama into it, he might comeback. I am not going to tell you to move on. It is not that easy. What I am going to tell you is to stay strong, and have faith that you are not only a good person, but good things will come to you in this life. You just gotta have faith.
2006-11-07 12:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give him some space right now. If its meant to be it will be. I know its hard, but he may just need some time to focus on school and etc... Try to go out and have fun with some friends, stay busy, and let him see your out having fun and living life.
It's hard to say if he will want to get back together later or not, only time can tell with that
2006-11-07 11:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes havig problems so don;t be hard on urself. Im sure ur a nice respinsible intelligent girl but u have to understand that hes hormones may be running wildly with school and grades and all. Give him some time and if he doesn't take u back try as hard as u can to move on because i kno thats hard
2006-11-07 11:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by *StarFashion* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life. It will be hard, but give him his space. If he truly cares he will come back. Don't push things and don't beg him back that will show him that you will be there when he's ready. Don't let him take advantage of this. Try to date other guys and if he loves you he won't be able to bare to see you with them. Some people have to break up to see how much they truly love one another and can't live without them. Maybe he'll realize that.
2006-11-07 12:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Amber M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 03:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by lacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My space doesn't have anything to do with it, he probably just doesn't want to be with you anymore. I don't care how much stress one is under breaking up is a stupid, so that isn't his reasoning either. As much as it pains you then just let him go and don't call him or any contact whats so ever, if he really wants you time will tell. take care and good luck
2006-11-07 11:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by angel_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter if you have a myspace account? Did you lie on it saying you were single or something? If he just dumps you for that, I'd say move on and let him be a miserable loser all by himself. There are other guys out there.
2006-11-07 11:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by electra_lutteur 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't meant to be after two years, what makes you think that everything will be fine and that he'll love you again later?!! If I had a boyfriend I'd take him seriously when he says that he don't love me no more. I don't know well I'm different and I happen to take whatever they say seriously
2006-11-07 11:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by starz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you should now concentrate on yourself and your studies.He has already told you he does not love you so why would you get back together with him?It will only be a matter of time until he feels this way again,There are plenty more guys who will appreciate you and love you they way you should be loved.
2006-11-07 11:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you anymore. If someone told me that I'd be really upset and even school and grades doesn't justify someone telling you they don't love you anymore. There's a difference between saying that and saying we just need a break.
2006-11-07 11:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋