Am I too young to get married?

Question

I am seventeen years old and I will be 18 in February, I am planning on getting married in June. My parents and his parents are for it, but everyone else seems to think I'm too young. Am I?

I am 17, and will be 18 in 4 months, I just got engaged and my fiance is in Japan because he is in the ARMY. We are planning on getting married in June...both of our parents are for it, but everyone seems to think I'm too young,..what do you think?

Answer 1

No. Follow your heart NOT what anyone (especially on this site) says. At 18 you're legal and able to make your own decisions. Just be sure that this is what you really want. The two of you have to be on a mutual level where you're both ready for a serious committing relationship. Obviously, if both parents are accepting it, they obviously have faith in your relationship with this man.
Also, I think it's funny how many people say "YES, YOU ARE TOO YOUNG". You see, most of our grandparents got married at young ages. My grandmother married at age 16. All of her 9 sisters & brothers married in their teens 16-19. All of their marriages lasted until death did them part. Back when our grandparents got married, there wasn't half as much divorce as there is now!
It's funny because people say... you're too young it won't last, but it seems like no one is lasting in marriages anymore, so why just point the finger at young love? Anyway, I think you should marry if you wan't to. It's your choice and as long as the two of you follow your marriage vows, you'll make it.

Answer 2

I got married at 18 and my husband and I are both as much in love 2 years later as we are now. It's better to get married and plan a life together and have a solid commitment than go from boyfriend to boyfriend and lose your self esteem. If you and your man get married at least you know you are doing the right thing. Just remember the first year of marriage is the hardest and if you make it through you can do it. Don't have any kids before being married one year.

Answer 3

Marriage is hard no matter what age you are. I was married at age 16, and divorced 3 1/2 years later, married the 2nd time for 5 years and 3rd time I have been married for 25 1/2 years (third time is a charm). It just depends on whether you are mature enough to realize what marriage means. At your young age, it means no more dating; no more girls night out with the girlfriends, and you will probably not hang around with many of your single friends anymore.
And, if you happen to get pregnant soon after....that is a whole new set of problems. You may be able to handle all of this...and if you do...congratulations!
You need to foget what other people are saying and do what you and your fiance think is best for you both. If both your families are behind you, then you have alot more than alot of couples your age.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

Melissa I'm sorry to add my "yes, you are too young" vote. I don't have anything personal against that age, it's just you have the opportunity to excel right now in a position that will put you in the upper middle class in less than 3 years! There are tons of colleges out there that don't require an Einstein to be enrolled. Nursing classes are easily affordable (especially with the guarenteed student loan with way low interest pay back rates) if you are still living at home. 2 years and you are a register nurse, making $40,000 a year minimum! This is just a sampling of whats out there. Tell me, would you still go for the same guy if you made more than he, and worked around single Doctors everyday?

Answer 5

Legally, yes. I don't know how you feel, so I don't know if you're too young, mentally, to get married. If you can't possibly imagine your life without your boyfriend, and you are perfectly happy with the thought of waking up next to him for the rest of your life and only him, then you might be ready. I suggest you should move in together first. There could be a lot of things you'll find you hate about him if you move in with him. You don't know someone 100% until you've lived with them, and even then it takes a while to know everything about them. You have to think about it, you'll need to get a job, you won't have time to go out with your friends all the time, you might still be in school, you'll need to finish school while working the job so you can pay the bills... You'll have to cook dinner for him and yourself every night, clean the house on your own. It's a lot of work having a place of your own. Just think it through before committing to it, you don't want to end up getting a divorce by the time you're 20.

Answer 6

youthful marriage- Aries (impulsive), Pisces (fall in love rather rapid and deep), maximum cancers (desperate for a kinfolk existence), or Leo (youthful marriage shows they could do issues that are glamorous each and every time they like. Libras love romance, so them too. late marriage- Aquarius, Gemini (the two indifferent and prefer freedom), Sagittarius (unfastened spirit, likes to no longer be tied down), Virgo (careful and slow in determination making)

Answer 7

If you are mature enought to handle it and understand that its NOT easy and you are commited to it I dont think there is anything wrong with getting married at 18.

I started dating my husband when we were 16. We did grow but we didnt grow apart. We got married when we were 20 and we have had hard times in our marriage but it always worked out. And again, even though we have already changed we have grown together and have become even closer then we were when we got married.

Answer 8

17 is a bit young, though I have friends that married in that age and they seem fine with it. It's not so much about the age but on how mature you are and how you will be able to confront troubles that may arouse, you have to check if you and your husband to be are financially secure, if you want to pursue a career and a lot of other stuff you have to take into consideration... If it's really really what you want and you truly feel it's the correct thing for you than go for it... I wish you all the happines in the world.

Answer 9

Im 20, my husband is also in the army and my name is also melissa, and i also got married at 18. Im happy being married, but there are times when i KNOW i should have waited. You miss out on sooooo much, and it truly does change your entire path in life. ESPECIALLY getting married to someone in the military. ITS A REALLLLY TOUGH married life. i would say wait, definately wait.

Answer 10

Oh, yes, hon. What you like at 17 isn't anything even close at 23. And you know you are too young too.... if you are asking this question, you already know the answer. Wait. Stay a committed couple if you wish but, have no children until you both can support them. Let your personalities grow, and flower. In a few years, if you guys still care about each other, then plan a marriage. But now? no, hon, not now.