Please help, l need some answers about what will happen to my son?

Question

My son has been going through a rough patch in his life. He has gotten himself off drugs so 110 points to him for that one, but he now drinks too much sometimes and gets himself into trouble. He used to be such a sensible boy but that doesn't seem to be the case at the moment. He thinks all police are corrupt so he has no respect for the law. He got himself into a little bit of trouble a couple of months back and he was capsicum sprayed and handcuffed . He was very lucky as he was only charged with being drunk in a public place. He has recently been in the same sort of trouble but this time he has a couple of charges of resisting arrest and assulting police. My husband says he could go to jail this time. Does anyone have any answers for me. I am really concerned for my son and l don't want him to get locked up. Like l said he is just making some bad choices at the moment. He is 23 yrs old, but he is still my baby, he has 2 older sisters. Only genuine answers please. I am very worried

IN all fairness to my son, he does not drink every day but normally when he does it is to excess. Also he went to a doctor years ago and was put on anti depressants which he hated. He is very mixed up. Regardless of what people think about him. He is my son and l love him to death whatever happens.

just for the record, yes my son does still live at home. I also have two daughters that are happy, well adjusted and are in happy relationships and all my children were brought up the same way.

Answer 1

Have you ever watched the TV show "Intervention"? Sounds like a prime candidate for that show. I have a 24 year old daughter that went to prison, and a 21 year old son on his way. My daughter went through extensive rehabilitation and is now doing very well. Addiction is a very sad but powerful disease, and the real problem with the disease is that people won't admit they have it. They are in Denial. Your son needs help, but he won't get it until he's wasted about everything and everybody in his path. Time for mom to get some "Tough Love" and stop enableing him. Alcohol or drugs they both go to the same school of destruction. For your own sake...DO AN INTERVENTION!

Answer 2

Yes, I will give you a genuine answer. It appears to me that your son is an alcoholic and you need to get him some immediate help before something very extreme happens.
I had a good friend many years ago while in the US Air Force. He became an alcoholic and liquid courage or the devils brew had a grip on him for many years. Finally, probably close to the end of his life, he found Jesus and he was saved. Your son needs to get some fast help such as AA or a minister or priest to talk to. He is going down into the bowels of Hell if you don't get him some help. Alcoholism is a disease and it looks like he has it.

Good Luck with you son, and I truly hope he can turn his life around with the Good Lord's intervention.

Get him some help now!

Answer 3

I can understand what you mean, that he is your baby. However he is a 23 year old male, and as such able to make his own choices. I spent most of my adult life in some form of law enforcement, and have had to deal and work with people that thought the way that you indicate that your son does. Unfortunately he is falling into a pattern that will put him in prison some day. I'd suggest looking into a "scared straight" program, in which he visits in a prison, and gets an idea of what it is like for a few hours. Years ago, I was involved with one of these, and it was a "wake up call" for a lot of younger men.

Answer 4

He's not your baby anymore. I hope that you can find the strength to show him that even though he is your son, that what he is doing is unacceptable in your eyes and will only lead to his downfall. Do not baby him any more. It will only provide him that safe haven that allows him to behave as he wishes without any consequences.

Get him into counseling asap so that you can try to determine what is motivating this anger and resentment toward authority. I hope that it is not too late for him. I know that some moms hate it when people say this, but I think the military is a good place for young men that have no direction.

Answer 5

Chances are assault on an officer will get him some jail time. You could try getting a good lawyer but no judge is going to be too nice when he hears the assault on an officer charge. I know you a just being a good parent but some time in jail may be just what he needs to straighten up. Its jail not prison so dont worry too much, jail can be rough but its nothing like prison. Im sorry to hear about your bad luck with your son and I hope this info helps you. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

I dont know what could possibly happen it is all up to the police department, and the courts. Since he has a history of this behavior in the past, the courts may not be as lenient on him. My only suggestion would be for him to get a good lawyer, or maybe even making a formal apology, maybe just a written letter to the police department for his behavior.

Answer 7

Well, you need to get him a really good lawyer if you don't want him going to jail. Although, if he already has it on his record I bet he will have to do some time. Probably not much but he will have alot of fines and counseling to go through after. He is 23 and he is an adult so all you can do is help him get a good azz lawyer.

Answer 8

He's 23, perhaps no longer abusing drugs, a drunk, and has a bad attitude. So, Mommy is busy making excuses for him. Face it- he isn't a baby any more. You treating him like some helpless victim isn't going to help him. You need to hold him responsible for his actions. I'd bet that he's living at home, not working very much, and sleeping until noon. You treat him like a kid, then wonder why he's acting like a spoiled kid.

Answer 9

Don't give up on your son. You know him better than anyone else does. If he shows you, that he is only going through some rough patches right now, but needs you, continue to be there for him. But I feel your son may need professional help. Does he seem to be depressed alot, or angry alot? Do you think he has a mental disorder? Drugs can affect the mind. Don't get offended by this, you need to be honest with the situation to really help your son. If he goes to jail for awhile, he will be free of alchohol, and of drugs. It is going to be real hard for him. He needs to be prepared for the out come. He is probably drinking to get the same affect of the drugs. I have learned some drink to committ slow suicide. I am not saying this to hurt you, but to help you. Spend quality time with your son, get him some help from a councelor who deals with his needs. Drug abuse, and alchohol abuse is a disease. It is addicting and hard to break free from, with out the proper help. Pray to God for strength, and for help to endure this rough time. Give your son reasons to live for and to change for. Continue to show your love. But again seriously, he needs to want to change for himself, and do it soon or he may have to go to jail. Hopefully, if he does go, he will learn to stop this dangerous life style. Just don't let this break up your family. Your other kids and husband need you just as much. And you need them too.

Answer 10

Really sorry to hear this happening to you and your family. It is obvious his addictions are bringing you and your family down. On the positive side I think he might be able to get out of jail if he is honest and says he has a drinking problem and is seeking help (hopefully sincerely) if he doesn't go to jail you and your family are going to have be hard on him and try to straighten himself out. Many people hit rough patches, thank god for mothers.