Recently i have undergone a lot of hard ships that have just brought me down. I feel emotionally and physically drained. I am insecure about everything and i am in need of constant attention. How do i get the confidence i once had?
2006-11-07 10:58:03 · 12 answers · asked by Curlz 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I tried talking to my Boyfriend about it and he said it was annoying and unattravtive. It made me feel worse. I want to be that strong confident women he met. (i am 24yrs old)
2006-11-07 11:06:06 · update #1
I found that I have more confidence when I exercise. I feel physically fit. It also gives me time to think about my goals and how to get there, which gets me mentally fit.
For exercise I use the befinning tae-bo videos from the library and go walking. Do what you enjoy doing though.
When you are done exercising write down what your goals are or what you thought to improve during that time. Sometimes carrying or having a pencil and little note book helps. If no productive thoughts come to mind just enjoy what you are doing and relax.
2006-11-07 11:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by lgraup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that a lot of people go through hard times, and that you need to stay optimistic. Surround yourself with friends who care about you, do activities that you enjoy, and keep yourself motivated by accomplishing daily goals that you make yourself each day.
If all that doesn't work and you're still feeling emotionally and physically drained, move somewhere else. It is possible that the place/location of where you live right now may have a lot of negative energy.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 19:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Just another nickname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RECHARGE
Start from the small things. What are some simple pleasures you enjoy just by yourself? This is a perfect time for you to indulge, every penny would be worth it.
A day in a spa with a glass of champagne with chocolates.
A very relaxing massage. Pamper yourself!
A day in a mall, buy something for yourself - a nice dress or a set of make-up.
A day in a salon, be and feel so beautiful after treatments.
Wanna have it all? A good relaxing vacation! Oh it would be a wonderful adventure!!
Have fun!!
2006-11-07 19:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by StrongFaith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get involved in a martial art. seriously. try Tae-Kwon-Do. i don't do any martial arts (i've never struggled with confidance), but my brother has. really, when i go to the studio i am amazed at how confidant everyone is. they know what they can do and they do it. and he has changed SO much (in a good way).
don't do something fake like listen to a song or tell yourself how 'wonderful' you are. if you're not sure you are, you have to PROVE it to yourself, and that requires building skill. don't teach yourself to be satisfied with something that you're not now. it's the difference between filling a baloon with sand and filling it with air. fill your 'confidance balloon' with sand.
if martial arts is out of the question, do something that you're a little afraid to do (art classes, theatre, public speaking class....) do whatever it is that makes you a little nervous. you don't learn unless you're nervous.
good luck!
2006-11-07 19:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always have a therapist in your life. You can bounce anything off them and get good positive feedback. Always have one so when something comes up and you want someone to talk to that will guide your thinking into the right direction it will only take a phone call to make another appointment. :-) Your boyfriend isn't much of a "friend" now is he?
2006-11-08 10:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Dewy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to someone you trust about it. If that doesn't help, or if you don't feel anyone will understand, then see a mental health professional. Don't be embarrassed to do so, as millions have done so before you.
2006-11-07 19:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mnementh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake it till you make it. In order to be confident, you first need to act like you already have it. It takes practice, but it really works.
2006-11-07 19:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a plan. make it realistic and stick to it. sounds like you have lost sight of the goal. little advances day to day lead to big advances in the long run. this works in all aspects of your life.
good luck.
2006-11-07 19:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by SKYDOGSLIM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on yourself....lay aside your crappy feelings and just start talking to people
2006-11-07 19:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
therapy, and you have just taken the first step by asking for help. Congratulations
2006-11-07 19:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by marc f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋